I feel like I'm in a life I never really agreed too. We both have good jobs and make a lot of money together and have a lot of expenses together. We both work at the same office for the same company. I dont want to be with her, but we own a home together, cars, tv's furnitures, and I dont think im strong enough to go through with a break up... but I really dont want to be with her anymore. I'm confused, weak, and need some direction, even if it is from a bunch of house wives who sit around on Yahoo Answers all day.
2007-01-11 08:17:44 · 11 answers · asked by plyrz_number1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, I'm not a housewife, I have a JOB that allows me to have all the free time in the world -if I am not busy! And you shouldn't have been so "IN LUUUVVV" that you let the wo-MAN that wears the pants in the family decide everything that would attach you to her for a decade.
I have lived together b4 marriage too, but damn- You let her rope your a** in good.
When you grow up and get good and tired of the **, you will have to sever ties anyhow. You don't want kids involved in a loveless family do you?
You know, you probably don't have a way to keep her from getting pregnant either, so you better act quickly and severely. If she wants to tie you down further, that would be the ultimate...
Credit and feelings will heal....Jobs and friends can be replaced, furniture and assets can be split, but would you love a child if you didn't want it?
2007-01-11 08:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you should think that before you agreed into something like this. Anyway...as it is there...just tell her the truth. Telling her the truth of course can hurt her at first but by keeping it longer without telling her that your not happy anymore make the things worst. Be positive about it. Something will come up into this by telling the truth. All truth hurts. She can accept it as the time goes by and later on she will forget it and she will let it go. Hurt her now than hurting her later on. You don't know what will happen tomorrow...and you're stuck in a middle of something where you feel frustrated and desperate to have your own life. You have a life...its your decision...you are the captain of your own soul. You just have to direct it to find the right place. In terms of your belongings with her...Split it up...I'm sure she will understand about it. Come on buddy...she's still your girlfriend...not a wife...Husband can divorce his wife if his not in love with her anymore..how much more when she just only a girlfriend...
Just relax and take action.
Speak up.
Get your life.
2007-01-11 16:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by joan_kol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you're in a tough situation. The unfortunate thing is with the breakup; emotions run high and then things need to be divided up. If you don't want to be with her anymore, then there's no sense in dragging it on and letting her think things are ok. Call all creditors/mortgage companies/insurance companies etc to let them know. CLOSE any credit cards you have with her, otherwise she may get up set and REALLY put you into debt. I've listened and watch friends go through it and I used to work for a credit card company. PROTECT yourself no matter what. Don't be weak; put your foot down and take control over your life because if you don't ANYONE else will.
2007-01-11 16:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This Old Housewife says:
You aren't doing her any favors by staying when you don't want to. Take inventory of what the two of you purchased together, and find a way to divide it more or less equally. It goes without saying that anything you brought into the relationship remains yours (or hers).
Obviously you'll have to sell the house and divvy up whatever equity you have into it. But you can keep one car, and she the other. Maybe since you're the one initiating the breakup though, you could let her stay in the house until it sells.
2007-01-11 16:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I went through the exact same thing only we were renting the house. It sucked to have to do it and I gave up alot. I'm so much happier now and I have a lot more money to spend to replace the stuff I left.
I know it's going to suck to have to go through it all, but if it can be done amicably, and without too much fighting you'll be much better off. Just remember not to doing anything to spite her, liking wanting something you know means a lot to her, because she'll do it right back.
Hnag in there and I promise six months from now you'll be so much happier!
2007-01-11 16:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Todd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and talk to her about the issues you're having. The lost thing you want to do is break up with her the wrong way. That can cause all of the things you own together to be tangled up.
2007-01-11 16:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Cherri88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the record, I'm not a housewife. I visit yahoo answers on my lunch break because I like helping people. Moving on, if you really want to leave her, sell everything and split the profit. If you don't want to do that, you have to find a way to resolve your issued with her and make it work. I doubt that she'll move and leave you everything.
2007-01-11 16:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by lovelyladee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, im not a house wife.... too increase my credibility, im a highschool student in french class. Point is, depending on where you live (Canada or the US) you should research your commonlaw marriage laws. Becuase if youve lived together too long -- it might not be breaking up but getting a divorce.,
2007-01-11 16:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some advise from a house wife on yahoo, get some backbone.
2007-01-11 16:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both want to split up then don;t you thnk she's entiteld to have of what she signed for???
2007-01-11 16:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋