need help with a bully?

Question

there is this kid at school who has been picking on me. he is taller then me and probably weighs twice as me. i'm only 4"11 and 80lbs. if i tried to fight him he would kill me. he calls me baby and tiny and he is trying to get other people call me that. i told him to stop and he pushed me into the wall. it hurts my feelings. i'm 13 years old and know i am small but he is making trouble and seems to target me out. what should i do? i don't want to tell on him or other kids might laugh at me.

Answer 1

There are several solutions to your problem:

1) Talk to the teachers/class advisers, maybe even principal. Tell your parents. It is not a shame to let people know what's going on. I'm sure everyone would help you if you'd just ask them for help. People don't tolerate bullies in today's society anymore and they are dealt with pretty swiftly in most situations. He'd probably get what he deserves.

2) You can call your older cousins/friends if you have any, to teach the bastard a lesson. They don't have to beat him up, they just need to threaten him enough to scare him away and let him know that if he ever touches you again, he'd end up in a hospital. Trust me, this works pretty good, but it's best not to resort to any violence unless completely necessary. It's still better to stick with the first option if you can.

Back in the day when I was in the 6th grade, there were 3 bullies in 8th grade who picked on me for a while. I was totally scared, but not the kind of person who would just put up with it. The next time they tried to bully me, I beat up one of them pretty badly while his friends were just watching in awe. They left me alone after that cause they knew their bullying was over concerning me.
But I did it only because I knew that they wouldn't just stop after a few warning from the teachers.

In high school some guy threw papers at me several times. I just ignored it for a while, pretending not to see what was going on. However, there was one paper too many, so I got up in the middle of the class, punched the guy, knocked him out and it was all over. I actually became friends with his colleagues later... That was also one of those situations when the teacher wouldn't do anything about the whole matter.

Anyway, just tell someone and everything is going to be alright. Don't fight him unless you really have to and it's your last resort. Violence is the last option available.

Good luck kid

Answer 2

If you can't deal with him you may have no choice but to quietly tell the school counselor this is going on and tell that counselor you don't want a big, public, deal made out of the fact that you're "telling".

Bullies get to keep bullying because they think nobody will be brave enough to "tell".

One thing, though: While you shouldn't have to be pushed around because you're small, there isn't anything horrible about being small. More importantly, though, you may want to not allow your "feelings" to be hurt by what some idiot says. Even if you do, though, you may not want to talk about "hurt feelings". People in middle and high school (and the adult world) need to have thicker skin than that; and if they don't they're going to attract some bullies who may otherwise have left them alone.

Answer 3

A bully is only a bully so long as they have someone to pick on. Stop being the one he picks on. I bet there are other kids he does it to, so make the first move and speak to an adult. As soon as you talk to an adult i bet other kids will come forward. Also you can ask that the adult doesn't say who it has come from they might just keep more of an eye on him and you so they can catch him at it then it looks like he was caught and you didn't tell.

Answer 4

mann i feel ur pain im about ur height also and im 14 yrs old and im in hs now so its gonna be tougher.. what u need is just alot of friends by ur side so if u do fight they are gonna have your back.. but you dont really know whos your true friends or not so its mostly all you.. ive experienced stuff like this before because alot of people think im a p*ssy saying like i wont fight or anythin but they dont know me so who are they to talk? anyways what you need to do is learn how to fight you cant be hiding in the shadows your whole life.. you need to start standing up for yourself and fight back so you can get his respect and other kids as well.

Answer 5

ALL schools in the US have a policy on Bullys YOu need to tell on him. most bullys will back down if you ignore or walk away but this kid has mental problems and you may be saving other students from this jerk!

Answer 6

Hang out in a group with other kids. He would find it harder to target you and just make yourself scarce whenever he's around. If you aren't going to go to an adult for help you are going to have to enlist the help of your friends to keep you out of harms way.

Answer 7

Alot of kids that bully other people are wimps themselves. If you don't let him bully you, he won't. You need to get some friends so they can stick up for you when he pulls his crap!

Answer 8

Go to this website:http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?area=main
They have a lot of good ideas to help you. My son was bullied and we went there and found lots of help.

Good luck to you! Nobody should be bullied. I was and it sucked.

Answer 9

hunny you need to tell someone that you know you can trust so they don't tell anyone and make fun of you....
if i were you i would tell a teacher or something...just make sure to tell them not to make it ovbious that you are telling on them, be around supervisiors that way if he gets carried away there will be someone there to help you out quickly...
just hang in there....

Answer 10

Kill 'em with kindness :)