I'm a 2nd yr MBA student, and have somewhat of a crush on a 1st yr girl. We don't have common classes or schedules, so I haven't even officially met her yet. I'm a student advisor for incoming students, so I've seen her various school programming events. We've passed by each other and I've caught her looking at me a few times. There was a time when I had to do a demonstration in front of a group and she sat in the front row -- and as we were going through the demo, I caught her looking at me again a few times. Since then, I've tried to show up at events, presentations, etc, hoping to run into her, but haven't been successful. I've heard she has a BF back home -- he's extremely lucky!! Recently, I got an email from her out of the blue asking if I could help her prepare for interviews (I'm an advisor). Her emails were friendly, congratulatory and long. We're meeting next week for intrvw prep. How do I take this further when I meet her? She's very pretty, likely sick of getting asked out!
2007-01-11 08:07:22 · 8 answers · asked by riddler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you can do is try. You would be very mad at yourself later if you didn't do it. Just ask her if she has a bf when you meet with her and take it from there. If she says no, awesome! But if she says yes, just let her know how lucky her bf is. Maybe she's not happy with him, and you could find out more about her life that way. She may give you a chance. Good Luck!!
2007-01-11 08:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude... you were giving a presentation... she is supposed to be looking at you.
Are all MBA students this egotistical?
OK, assuming she really has noticed you, and that she does not have a committed relationship back home that she is 'cheating on', then just be cool.
Do NOT mix up your role of advisor and potential suitor. Be 'professional' but also be objective, and if she is truly flirtatious, grab some coffee and get personnal as you immediately ask her out, make sure to let her know that if she says yes, you will have to refer her to someone else for advisement.
2007-01-11 08:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you have to make SURE that she still has a BF. Approaching her with that in mind may help you approach the matter a bit differently. But if she knows that you have knowledge of her business back at home (either you asked someone she knows and they apparently told her you asked) and you ask her out most likely she will be offended. Since you are working one on one with her with things having to do with her future, this could be a good start once you have figured your way on handling the BF issue. Keyword... be proactive in familiarizing yourself with her specific interests, get to know about her and her passionate interests (career wise) exclusively. Once you can pretty much feel the beat on what else she may feel passionate about (what she likes to talk about) candidly ask her out to lunch DO NOT DO DINNER right off the bat. Make her feel comfortable and be receptive enough to let her feel she can say whats on her mind about certain things. After you throw out some opinions that arent too hostile with how she looks at things in general, she begins to trust you and feel confident that what she says wont be hastily judged. THIS IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT: If an issue arises where she doesnt agree or she is stating a problem.....JUST LISTEN do not....DO NOT try to suggest solutions to her problems....she has girlfriends who handle that. However if it has something to do with school be very candid in sharing your experiences....just enough where she will not ignore what you are saying after two words come out of your mouth and begins to question your credibility as a 2nd year student. (That means hostility....o000OOOO you dont want that.)
I hope this works. make sure that what you say to her has been thought out for the first couple of times on personal subjects (when you get that far) since she doesnt know you, make sure that what you are saying is clear and communicates effectively. Choice of words is very important on the first dates.....after that you can be a bit more relaxed.
Hope you found this helpful!
2007-01-11 08:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Serrato 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being pretty is an advantage, but most it fires back as it intimidate others to ask pretty girls out (thinking all sort of things, like she is sick of hearing it, didn't u consider that maybe everyone says so so she really needs to hear it?? )
but the BF thing might be there, if u like her, and it is a maybe, doesn't it worth making sure of??
if she does and she is committed and she loves her BF, make sure that you can possibly 'steal' her from him... but then there will be possible someone who can 'steal' her from you..
if it is only sex u want from her so you wouldn't care if she was to be stolen later, then that is sad for both of you if it involved cheating.
2007-01-11 08:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of she likes you, yet she relatively cares approximately her bf. If he lives a approaches away she could be lacking being touched. nonetheless perchance she is purely afraid to get in contact with you and keeps up the bf tale to maintain you waiting, yet no longer prepared to bypass farther till she says that's ok. honestly i might sit down her down and allow her understand what you think of, perchance she'll open up, perchance no longer yet then a minimum of you will understand the place to bypass next. good success.
2016-10-07 00:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read the whole question, all I saw was you have a crush on a girl that has a bf. Stay away.
2007-01-11 08:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be subtle, let her know you like her. Find out if she has a bf if not good go ahead, if she does, give her space and time to figure out what she wants.
2007-01-11 08:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I see this on the O.C., of Hills or whatever teen drama is hot at the moment?
2007-01-11 08:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋