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My friend has recently been proposed to, and yet I cannot seem to get excited for her because I know some of things that have occured during there relationship that he doesn't know about. Obviously it is not my place to tell him she has been unfaithful, but I just do not agree with their engagement. What should I do?

2007-01-11 07:55:26 · 17 answers · asked by brittany 2 in Family & Relationships Weddings

17 answers

Yeah it sucks in this situation, but the best thing to do is to just keep out of it. You're obviously a good person, hence why you want to tell him, but maybe the best thing to do is talk to your friend and see how she feels about things. May put your mind at rest.

Good Luck.

2007-01-11 08:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1 0

It doesn't matter if you agree or not, they are engaged now. It would be best to keep your opinions to yourself. No relationship is perfect and if she is not the right one for him he'll learn it the hard way over time. Just wish them the best, be very polite and graceful when invloved in discussions regarding the wedding with her. You don't need to show over enthuasiasm but just be happy for the simple fact that she is happy. If she is truly your friend that is what you should want the most for her. Good luck !

2007-01-11 11:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by mailersky 3 · 0 0

I'm with Josiah, talk to her about coming clean. Obviously it sounds like she's past this if she's accepting a marriage proposal, but then again she could be still messing around, and this could hurt them much more if this information is found out AFTER the marriage.

2007-01-11 10:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Be cordial for the sake of the friendship. If you do get involved, trust me, YOU will be the bad guy, not her. And it would probably end the friendship. Plaster a smile on your face, even if it isn't genuine. When in doubt, say nothing and break out that fake grin!

2007-01-11 08:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by MelB 5 · 0 0

I found myself in the exact same situation this summer....and I was supposed to be her matron of honor... So I thought about it a lot and decided that since I couldn't support their marriage, I could not be a good friend to her...so I ended our friendship. It was ugly, but it was more worth it to me to no longer have her in my life than it was to pretend to be happy for them and help with all the wedding plans! I am very happy with my decision. A few weeks later, she heard a rumor that I was pregnant and she sent me an email and told me she hopes my baby dies....it was very interesting.

2007-01-11 08:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Its not your place, don't tell him. If you tell him, it will ruin your friendship....unfortuanately, there are just somethings people have to find out for themselves.

Also, who knows, maybe he already knows and they have worked thru it....you don't necessarily know what happens between couples. Some things they may choose to keep private and not discuss with you or anyone else.

Good luck!

2007-01-11 08:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0 0

How much do you care for your friend? I My self would rather know now,, then to find it out, when we were marred and had kids then find out, Put your self in his shoes, Then on the other hand, after thy marry she might be a good wife, But its seems to that he will be the one that will lose,, You have a hard chose to make GOOD LUCK

2007-01-11 08:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by bill_ray56 3 · 0 0

Nothing. It's not your place. As her friend, you keep her secrets. Just because she cheated on him doesn't mean she'll do it again. You can talk to her about your worries. Be happy for your friend that she's with someone she loves, even if it took a few asides for her to realize that.

2007-01-11 08:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 2 0

Do you think that what she did being single would reflect after she is married that she might not do it again?
Would you risk losing a friend by knowingly giving information not needed.\

I think that it really deosnt matter if they love each other...let them try!

2007-01-11 08:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't get in the middle of that...if she is happy, then you should be too. No reason to spoil things. If he comes to you, then direct him to talk with her...it isn't your place.

2007-01-11 09:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0 0

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