I'm feeling lonely right now and could do with some helpful advice?

Question

I stay in by myself and i know thats obviously the reason why i'm lonely but i've got used to being by myself and find it hard to relate to others,is there any helpful advise you could give me?...Please

You won't believe this but almost 8 years!

Answer 1

Take up a hobby that will allow you to meet other people...

I work all the time to help feed my relatives (all 1,213,591 of them) so I do not have time to be lonely... I get no privacy either!

Answer 2

Oh babes, I know exactly how you feel. I am lonely, despite a husband and two gorgeous children.

I find it incredibly difficult to relate to others and have hardly any friends. I have lost all my confidence and don't know how to get it back.

I don't go out, and keep thinking of how I am going to get through. I am taking the bull by the horns and going to look at starting an evening course. Not sure what yet, but my local paper came through yesterday and there was a big spread by a local college of courses starting in January/February. That way I am not under pressure to "make friends" (I always think that sounds like something from school) and at least I know that I have something in common with the other people who are there as they will have an interest in the same topic.

That is my only advice I am afraid. Well there is one more bit of advice I suppose, you can email me. It is always easier to chat to someone by email. You don't need even half the confidence of doing it face to face :).

You are not alone, there are loads of genuine people on here who can help you - even if it is only a quick email or a friendly comment. There are a few idiots though too, as you have no doubt realised.

Take care of yourself, and feel free to drop me an email.

Answer 3

I took a look at your bio, I see you are a very artistic guy, it is great to have such gifts, however it puts you in a differnt space so to speak. I have 6 children, 2 artists in their own right like you. They both have feelings like this, usually people so gifted have troubles in other ways, your feelings are common, which should give you some comfort, and there are alot of things out there to try, ask your doc about some help if you need to even for awhile an anti depressant might help. But mostly KNOW YOU ARE NORMAL, seek company of other artists, hang out with what you know so your brain gets fed and you stay interested, use your talents or you will lose them. Try teaching others to do some of these things, maybe children or Seniors? Do one thing each day to try to improve your situation some way, it wont come all at once. Dont despair, the world is full of lonely people, so it is not hard to find someone who is in this situation, maybe you can help each other, my foster daughter thought "she" was going to make the world a better place and she began visiting the elderly, a lady over 80 with Alheimers taught my daughter to knit, to take life one day at a time and appreciate even the smallest thing. Join a church, they are always looking for people who will be willing to share something in some way. The possibilities are endless but so is the fight, with an artistic personality you will have these feelings alot so find things that work for you and bless you, how the world NEEDS more people like you.

Answer 4

It's hard to pull yourself out of the funk, when you have been in it so long. I suggest that you slowly try to get out and around people. Do you have a friend that you could go have coffee with just a cup-of-Joe what 30min to an hour. Then move up to more time out.

OR

This is going to sound corny, but if you don't have any friends, try joining a group or club where people of like minds come together to discuss a hobby or passion. That is a great way to be able to talk to people you don't know because you have a common interest. If you not comfortable sharing things about
yourself, just ask questions, people loe to talk about thier hobbies.

Good Luck

Answer 5

I know just how you feel hun as i seldom go out and i get lonely. You get stuck in a rut thats the problem. How would you feel about joining an evening class/college that way your not going there to make friends, you're going to learn. You will be surprised how many friends you can make this way, thats how i managed to gain friends. I think you're being too hard on yourself though hun. What's wrong with staying in?? If it's not broken don't fix it i say. Don't feel like you can't relate to others 'cos guess what - you just related yourself well in your question. Your fine you need to build your confidence thats all :)

Answer 6

I would say join the theater. I can't tell you how much it helped me. Theater folk are freeky, there is no doubt about it, but they are also friendly and welcoming because they know what it's like to be excluded. It's a great way to meet girls, or guys, whatever you're into. Even the acting itself can be really freeing; when I am up on stage I sort of dissappear and a whole other person comes into existance for a little while. It's really magical. Also, how I met my current boyfriend who I have been seeing for 2 1/2 years and the set of friends I have had for the past 5 years.

Answer 7

If you can possibly do some volunteer work,hospital visiting,dog walking,somewhere where you get to meet people but don't always have to make conversation that is a good way to start. It's ok to be alone but when you start to feel lonely you need to try and do something different. I know it's hard and you do kind of get in a habit of being on your own but think,what is the worst that can happen? and go from there. Good luck

Answer 8

I don't go out very much I think it becomes a habit and you just get used to your own company although I don't find it hard to relate to people and am never lonely only once in my life hated being on my own and that was when my daughter left to go to uni and it wasn't that I felt lonely cause family and friends would visit and phone but I felt alone and that was awfull so here is a BIG HUG and SMILE x

Answer 9

I'm sorry your lonely. I know first hand it's no fun. I checked out your 360 page and you seem like a good guy. I think it's hard to relate to a lot of people, but that's life I guess. Just go out to places you like, and you will find others with similar interests that you can relate to more. Hope I helped a little. : ) Smile

Answer 10

You need to feel needed !!!!
See your GP for an informal talk and see if some antidepressants are suitable in your case. You may find your neighbours could also help by giving you an open door policy within reasonble hours. I have done the same for a neighbour of ours and she pulled out of her little world in time. Ask people perhaps at the church, local pub, local health centre if you can jin a regular meeting. Good Luck !!!

Answer 11

Dear Danny,
It's hard to fall in to the "safe zone" where you feel comfortable. But you need to get out there and enjoy life and friends. If you have a hobby or interest get online and look for groups in your area w/ the same. Or pick on night a week to go out to dinner, even if your alone you will get used to being around other people. I'm sure your a really nice guy and will make friends. you just have to get out there and try.