I want tohave a closer relationship with my 21 yr. old daugther,any ideas?

Answer 1

A good open minded and mature conversation may be a good start. Inquire as to what has been missing in your relationship to date and keep an open mind when she is responding. Allow the young woman to feel that what she has to say has some importance and feel validated. Best of luck and I hope that you two can become closer for all involved.

Answer 2

Girls are very independent at this age, or at least they want to be making the choices.

Letting her have her freedom and moving more into a friend mode is pro bally the best. When parents are judge mental kids tend to shut down communications.

Several years were pretty distant with my step daughter, she's 27 now and visits a lot more than she did when she was say 20-25. It may be a stage. Invite her to do things on her own time, if she do sent accept the offers now she pro bally will later after some space and time and becoming comfortable with her independence.

Answer 3

Remember that she IS 21 yrs. old. Don't give her advise unless she asks for it. Talk to her, and if you have had problems in the past, patch it up and start fresh. Go out to lunch and have a good time. Don't ask a lot of personal questions. Keep it light.

Answer 4

I laugh more freely and more often...I try to keep the atmosphere light...I learned to roll my eyes and chuckle a bit instead of lecture.I learned to accept that I have raised them well. I ask their opinions and seriously consider their answers.....I breathe deeply when I want to be controlling or but in....or advise...when I hear something that I know as a parent I need to address I refrain from doing it at a time when we are enjoying each other....i make an appointment to talk and then air my concerns....I am learning to simply let hem know the me for who I am....besides a mother...

Answer 5

Be there.
Be insightful, but don't give advice.
If you must advise, always let her make the final decision and show you trust she will make a good one.
Do something she's interested in and wants to do and have fun doing it with her.
Laugh together.
Listen.
Commend.
Talk, don't argue.
Try to remember what it was like to be 21.
Give freedom but be firm for what you believe in.
Always show how much you love her.

Answer 6

I have Twin Girls & I've been trying to have a closer relationship with them for years. They are 33 now. and I still don't have a close one. But they don't hate me at least. They have families of their own & they visit off & on.It's just that all our lives are so busy that it's hard now-a-days to be really close. Maybe when I retire, we'll have more time to work on it...Just be patient..Let her come to you...Don't always be the to phone...Wait for her to call...I know it's hard but you might drive her away if you try too hard...They need their space & they need to grow...Good Luck...

Answer 7

Put yourself in her place that at one time you too were 21. Open your heart to her and tell her you want her to feel the same towards you regardless of differences you may have, you want to be a part of her life. Be best friends. Now, the best part: hang out and chill out. Have fun!

Answer 8

Pull away a little bit, if you haven't already. Then go out for lunch every week or maybe every other week, maybe after church or something.

But to be closer you probably need to give her a little room too. Best wishes

Answer 9

Ask your daughter for lunch or dinner for once a month because sometimes your daughter needs be on her own for a while. Try tell her the truth that you want to get know her more and it will help you to bein close her.

Answer 10

Dont be so judgemental and learn to respect and trust her decisions and let her learn from her mistakes and dont bash her if she makes one let her learn on her own. Im 21 so I know it u make her feel like an adult she will love u.