me and a friend of mine have decided to take things to the next level. when we r together things are very well and we never argue or disagree on anything.she knows alot of guys and when we are away from each other she always seems to be making plans to hang out w/ other guys. she knows almost no females at all. i knew this from the get go, but now that we are going out it bugs me that she does that. she has guy friends visiting her at work and stuff, and she has admitted she has had commitment issues but now that she is w/ me that she says seems to be changing. im a jealous guy, and although normally this would steer me away from the person, have been compromising w/ her. my question is, am i wasting my time w/ her and do her habits make her more likely to cheat on me in the future? i have been thinking of dropping things but i like her alot and things have been goin well so far.
2007-01-11 07:31:28 · 25 answers · asked by wizzpack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You knew this was the way she was. Yet you went ahead anyway with this. You've no business chastising her or feeling the way you do. If you have issues with this then go back to being pals.
2007-01-11 07:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of women only have guy friends because, quite frankly women are b*tches, and they make it difficult to be friends. I used to be just like her, I was always with my guys, but never really wanted to be commited to one person, but things do change. I am now happily married, and I still hang out with all my guys, and even some of his. The thing that makes this work though is that he is NOT jealous, so I know he trusts me and makes me want to stay commited. If she is worth it, try to see where things go, and be honest with her about how you feel.
2007-01-11 15:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Gap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that she is friends with you and other guys, you knew that from the beginning and if you couldn't handle her being friends with different guys you should have never decided to become more than friends with her. If that is a problem for you then yea, i think your wasting your time because most likely that will never change. Because some women do not enjoy hanging out with other women. I am one of them.
2007-01-11 15:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting and cheating are two separate things. Although I understand why you would want to relate them to each other, you should realise it's more a matter of morality. In a way, I do the same thing she does because I know mostly women, and most of my interactions could be seen as flirting. That being said, I will never cheat on any girl I ever date. I hold myself to standards far above normal. You may be wasting your time with her, but what do we have if we don't have time to waste?
2007-01-11 15:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Gray 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From expierence, girls like to have guy friends rather than girl friends. Girls can be bitches and bring to much drama. They are backstabbing and unforgetable. Guys are so much more understanding, and are like w/e and relaxed and almost will never do anything to hurt you (friends) maybe she just likes hanging out with other guys. If she told you that she has commitment issues but she is changeing then she probably is. Think about it she can't just drop all her current friends to become your girlfriend. Talk to her about it. Tell her that you completley trust her you just dont feel comfortable with her around so many guys all the time and ask her if she can cool it with them for a lil... not stop seeing them just not hang out with them as much. Ask her if she has a girl friends and ask her why she doesnt go hang out with them.
2007-01-11 15:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you kids? Give her a chance. Nobody like jealousy, well maybe just a little. Do you trust her? Why or why not? How does she think this is changing her? Let her know how you feel, and then take it from there. Do not be a coward let her know how things stand but Don't tell her what to do.
2007-01-11 15:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your jealousy get the best of you. If she has commitment issues, she'll be testing you constantly for an excuse to bail out (it's not you, it's her).
At the same time, draw a line with her and be firm about it.
Nothing wrong with having guy friends, but if they're hanging all over her and she's okay with it, you have to say goodbye.
Guys will tap anything, even their best friend's girlfriend, so be careful where you place your trust.
2007-01-11 15:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think you should give her the benefit of the doubt. I mean after all it's you that she's dating. Does it really matter what sex her friends are? Okay, now the truth: LOL She's either trying to make you jealous or she likes to have a lot of possible opportunities open for her. There's hardly any male/female friendships that there isn't any sexual attraction on one or the other's part. Just an FYI.
2007-01-11 15:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you said you knew she had guy friends from the start and you decided to date her anyway. Now you're taking it back because it makes you jealous? You're not being fair and you're not following through with your own commitment to her.
If it makes you uncomfortable and jealous, and you knew this from the start, you shouldn't have dated her.
So now you have two choices, you be fair and stick to your first agenda and understand that she JUST has guy friends.
Or, you say goodbye and find a girl who has girlfriends.
2007-01-11 15:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her time, these guys are her friends and like you said you knew that from the get go. I think over time, once she starts taking things a lil more seriously, she'll understand your point of view and realize that her guy friends may come between you and her. I'm sure she'll wise up once the relationship grows.... if time passes, sit her down, talk with her and if she throws a fit ditch her for one of HER friends.
2007-01-11 15:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by pushiepeachy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As she has several male friends then tell her that you think she should take a break from them for a while to see how she feels about your relationship and if she is serious about it.
I'm not saying you have to tell her to stop seeing them altogether but you need to compromise with her. Is there something you are willing to not do you can come to some agreement?
2007-01-11 15:37:51 · answer #11 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋