My dad is very sick and I don't think he has long to live, since I don't live with him and he isn't really a part of my life I don't really talk about him to people, how do I go about discussing this with my friends? should I even tell them?
2007-01-11 07:23:34 · 20 answers · asked by irisheyes47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
TELL THEM THAT IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO LOOSE YOUR FATHER. THEY WILL SYMPATHIZE WITH YOU.
2007-01-11 07:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kwadwo B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people recover from serious illnesses, so don't tell people your dad is dying based on what you "think may happen". If you need to talk about things then confide in a trusted friend. Only tell people if you feel you need to. Since he is not part of your life...it may be in your best interest to try to see your dad before anything does happen. Once he's gone...you will no longer have the option of reaching out to him
2007-01-11 15:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, discuss it with your friends or family. It helps to talk about these things. If you don't know how to start off the conversation, then I suggest saying that you need to talk and simply explain the situation. If you have true friends, then they will be sympathetic and supportive and listen to what you need to get off your chest. Cope with the situation though, don't ignore it. It will have a greater affect on your life later, more than you realize.
2007-01-11 15:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess that depends on how you feel. if you feel the need to talk about it talk about it. talking does help with the release of pent up emotions. My suggestion for you is go spend sometime with him while you still can, that should ease some of the guilt feeling that you will have. and on top of that thnk of him im sure he wants to spend time with you. talk about things get anything unresolved resolved while there is still time. i could on and on about this but i wont. Just be there for him in time you will understand why i menton this. ive lost parents the same way and it is very hard to see them sick but remember your the one that will continue to live and there is always a whoe gammit of emotions to go through when someone dies. and your the one who has to live and deal with your own emotions.
2007-01-11 15:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by jhdjkhblpk;mvhyf nbjhghbmnbjgb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's up to you if you feel like talking about it you will. If you don't want to talk about it people (especially your good friends) may sense something about you that seems wrong or different and will get you to open up and talk about it. However it is all up to you and in the way you need to or want to deal with it. Sometimes it helps just to talk to at least one good friend to open up with regardless if your dad was or wasn't much in your life.
2007-01-11 15:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes u feel better then yes talk to ur friends because god forbid he passes u dont want to feel like u have a guilty consience it will haunt u even though it may not be. but obviously ur hurting inside and the only way to relieve that pain is to talk about it. my dad passed and we had a great relationship there were some things that i wish i couldve shared with him but didnt get to and it left me feeling like i had a guilty conscience until i talked to someone and until then did i feel better. it still hurts like hell that hes gone but at least i know hell always be with me no matter where i am. keep ur chin up. itll be alright
2007-01-11 15:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How I deal with this is by not talking about it to anyone unless his name comes up because otherwise it almost seems like you are on some kind of sympathy trip or something like you need attention. I have a cousin who is like that and i have always vowed to be the complete opposite.
2007-01-11 15:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are actually asking this question, I think you care more for your father than you think. when the time comes that he does pass on, you may need your friends for support. I would discuss it with them, make them aware of whats happening. that way you dont have to face the dreaded question of "what's wrong" and "why are you crying".
2007-01-11 15:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Dallas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should gather your friends together and tell them. The reason being: You need some suport other than family because you will want to be there for your Mom & siblings & who will be there for you" Your Friends" if you let them..Think about it, you need a shoulder too...
2007-01-11 15:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by quiz buckler scoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to tell someone even though he is not part of your life .And you need to go to him and resolve any issues with him now before it is too late cause one he is gone it is too late .And you will regret it for the rest of your life that you did not make peace with him.As my dad went without warning and i wish still 17 years after the fact that i told him that i loved him .Dont wait
2007-01-11 15:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Donna Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your friends. They may be able to help you by just listening. It will help you a lot to talk about it too.
2007-01-11 15:41:20 · answer #11 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋