Am I asexual?

Question

I am a 19 year old female who has never dated.. it is not due to my looks bc several guys ask me out all the time, but I just tell them I have a boyfriend, but I am lying in reality. I was having a discussion with my guy friend and he said no guy is ever gonna want to be friends with me.. he says they are always going to want a relationship. I was like, but all I want is friendship.

He said I am going to end up with no male friends bc I won't date them, and it is going to seem awkard when we I turn them down. I can't understand that philosophy. I told him that I don't want to date and he thinks I am weird and won't accept my decision.

Ok, I think I am asexual bc I have never been sexually attracted to a guy. I don't want kids, and I can never see myself married.. and I don't see myself dating either. I know that I am not a lesbian, bc I don't want a gf.... Men call me selfish bc I don't want kids, and they say the just can't be friends with me, it has to be a relationship.

the thing is that I really want male friends but I don't want a bf and gf relationship. this one guy even told me that it is going to be hard to find a man that does not want kids.. what is wrong with me?

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with you. People develop differently and in there own pace. There are also men out there that will want to be friends with you, when they know who you are and how you think. These may take time, but be patient and a good friend will arrive. Once you’ve experienced more life, then other feelings may develop.
The majority of men, but definitely not all, will spend time with a woman for a sexual reason. Good, strong friendships can develop over time and if the chemistry is right, a more sexual attraction may develop. My advice would be to be patient and friendly. Don’t be flirtatious, as this would pass on the wrong ideas to men. The key word is patience. You are still very young. If you continue to have the same lack of romantic attraction to people in a couple years, then you might talk to a doctor. Sometimes body chemistry could be at fault.
You sound like a sweet girl and so stay that way. I’m sure you’ll be fine in the long haul.

Answer 2

Personally I have no idea why your friend said that, I have plenty of male friends and there is no attraction we're just buddies someone to talk to when your friends who are girls piss you off and you just want to vent. But maybe you just realize that men are immature and you would rather be by yourself than handle any of the drama that goes with them. I am the same way, I do not see myself being married, I would like to be but I just do not see it in my future due to the type of job I want. Hope this helps, have a great day. :-)