Can you not love your parents?

Answer 1

I believe that if your parents are abusive unloving, or cold and neglectful and unloving, a child can come to feel no love for his/her parents.

Which is sad, because kids are born with an innate love for their parents and it takes a lot to kill that. Every healthy, normal child is born wanting to love. Over and over again we see on the news or read in the papers stories of kids whose parents savagely abused them or neglected them, and the kids still obviously love their parents. How big a gift is that to just be thrown away?

So sad.

Answer 2

Of course. I don't think being a parent gives you automatic rights to love and respect. You have to earn them. If your parents are rubbish then why should you love them - its only a biological link that society dictates should mean something else. I love my parents because they did a great deal for me. I don't know if I like them though. If they weren't my parents, I don't think I would have much to do with them. I think they feel the same about me!

Answer 3

Back in my day, before they invented fire and the written word, I hated my parents.

Hated. Couldn't wait to get out of the house and did as soon as I could.

Then I matured a little and found out they weren't that bad. Then I had kids and I really started to like them a lot, love them in fact.

But that did not happen over night. I suspect if they were dying or sick when I was young my answer would be different.

Answer 4

Depends, they are your parents coz they care for you not because the are simply your biological parents. I grew up with my mum and I love my mum coz she is everything I am today. My dad was abusive towards her and I was just a baby then. My brothers and sisters told me what my dad has done and I hated him. So there you go. There's a reason for not loving your parents. What's yours?

Answer 5

I think so...
My 6 year old step son often tells us he doesn't love his mum and children at that age don't lie!
He asked Santa for a new mum for Christmas!
Unfortunately for us she is the resident parent :(
Personally I adore my parents, but my husband struggles with his and although he would probably say he loves them, I don't think he likes them very much most of the time!
Hope everything is okay with you, it seems a strange question to ask xx

Answer 6

Yeah, Alot of people me included spend there whole life trying to love their parents and to get their parents to love them, then you grow up get a family of your own and realise all the time you spending trying to please your parnets take you away from who you really love.

I have spoken to my parents in years and although I miss having parents I dont miss my parents (if that makes sense) I am so much happier now and my life is alot easier.

I have 3 kids who I love very much and who love me so I must have learnt from my parents mistakens

Deb

Answer 7

im lucky, i cant imagine not loving my parents, theyre the best, but if f theyre azzholes, why love them. You earn respect and love, your not obliged to coz of blood...you can choose your friends, but not your family. But sometimes kids don't think they like their parents coz they wont let them do what they want, but sometimes parents know best. Its a bad world and parents worry everytime thier kids look like theyre in with the wrong crowd or getting into bother. My 14 year daughter was arrested for thieving last year, and she came home drunk 3 times, but she thinks shes cool.

Answer 8

yes you could not love your parents,just cause there your parents doent mean that you automatically love them just like with everyone else from spouse to sister.i never loved my parents never even had a proper relationship with them,they wernt mum and dad just my providers up until last year.i do feel love for them now but not a strong love like my sisters feel,i have to force myself to even hug them.my best friend hates her mum and woulnt shed a tear if she passed tomorrow.love is earned through bonding trust and being loved back by the other person it is not a right.xx

Answer 9

Parental Love is usually natural... now liking them is a different story. Its okay to NOT like your parents.

Answer 10

i have heard of kids not loving their parents as some parent do not love their kids so Yes .If this parent is not a good parent to you then yes you have that right not to love them