My boyfriend (off and on for 8 years) always wants sex. If I see him for the first time in a couple days he paws and rubs against me until I have sex. It's really starting to bug me. I have sex with him just to get it over with and so he stops and gives me space. After sex he mellows and acts "normal". However, he's not as affectionate. I tried to talk to him about it and it always ends up where I drop it because I can't stand to fight.
Is his behavior normal? I know men always want sex, but I need my space too. I am so confused as to how this should be handled.
Please, anyone, everyone respond.
2007-01-11 07:11:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to masterbate, and yes of course it is normal he is a guy.
2007-01-11 07:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by simsad31 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the most important question is - "how does he act if you DON"T give it to him?" I went out with a guy who was a sex addict (literally - i mean, he had to get professional help). And i know what you guys think - ALL men are sex addicts! But what made him different was that he would make me feel guilty or we would have fights if i didn't have sex with him. It's one thing to want it all the time, but if you are not in the mood and make that clear, and he doesn't respect this, or if you feel that you have to come up with these elaborate stories or excuses to get out of it because you don't want to get into a fight, then you have a big problem on your hands. My boyfriend and i eventually broke up because of this - this leads to a whole new set of problems. If he doesn't respect you not wanting sex, this will lead to fights, or him possibly finding gratification outside of the relationship. So ask yourself these questions and either make sure he gets some kind of help, or start thinking seriously about ending it.
2007-01-11 15:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by vrrygood 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be far more assetrive for a while - give him a tast of his own medicine. You demand sex every hour for a while - his inability to meet your demands will give you the upper hand. If you take the lead and initiate sex this will confuse him. He probably feels it is the man's role to make the first move. He probably acts like he does - not because he really wants loving sex - but because he feels he has to do it.
good luck
leslie14u
2007-01-11 15:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by rolland rat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really annoying, and if he's "not as affectionate" after you guys have sex, that ought to send up some red flags. I can totally sympathize with you. He sounds like some kind of horny high-schooler.
I would advise just being straight with him. Tell him to back off, and don't sugar-coat it. Make him understand that if he's all over you, it's not sexy for YOU at all. If this continues and he also keeps failing to meet your emotional needs by withholding affection, maybe it's time to find someone better.
2007-01-11 15:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him a handjob or a *******. this is the one part of the male psyche that females will never really have perspective on. once a guy cums, his sex drive takes a nosedive. it's an involuntary response. as a result, he becomes more willing to give you space, less affectionate, less eager, and more interesting.
his behavior is 100% normal.
2007-01-11 15:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married and use to have sex 6 times a week before I became a quad.
2007-01-11 15:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Microb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could quit giving it to him, then he would look elsewhere!
OR, you could work on your communication with him, maybe he feels different about sex than you do? Maybe he wants sex for acceptance or considers that the affection you don't think you are getting???? Communicate with him and if you are not compatible consider your options!
2007-01-11 15:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that maybe you're a lesbian? I know a lot of women, myself included, who wished they had your "problem." If he's too sexual for you, dump him and get with someone who doesn't want it as often. Maybe an older gentleman who isn't able to get it up anyway would be a more suitable partner for you.
2007-01-11 15:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Am I. Incognito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if want sex with him , then no problem , right?
if you don't, why do get with him at all?
don't let him touch you maybe , then maybe you could say no.
"just to get it over with" doesn't sound like good sex or love to me, not even a little bit
maybe you should charge him $500 or something
2007-01-11 15:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not normal, tell him how you feel and if he doesn't like it then show him the door. Sex is fun but you will end up hating.
2007-01-11 15:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jason Bourne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it only when it is convenient for you. He won't die if he doesn't get any. Go places where you can't have sex like the mall etc.
2007-01-11 15:17:05 · answer #11 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋