Ladies, I am 24 and single. I have a question to ask you . . . remember only women ages 24 - 34 please. Now I was wondering from your point of view, if a man needed to be friends with benefits with a woman, how would he maintain being a "gentleman" and still ask a woman to be friends with benefits. If you ladies could give me some examples of how to go about asking a woman, I'd be much appreciative. Thanks!
2007-01-11 07:06:01 · 14 answers · asked by chrissexysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most of the time ... it just happens ... the girl can't really be into you that much ... at least at first ... she does however need to be sexually attracted to you .. if you feel that connection with her ... take her out with a bunch of friends ... get wasted and see where things go from there ... start hanging out with her more and more ... get to know her .. what she wants .. show her your interested in her sexually but not ready for a relationship ... if you know she likes you already - don't go there ... it's not worth hurting her feelings ... for a few nights of pleasure ... wow this is a hard question ... hard to explain without knowing the two of you ... good luck with whatever happens ... !
2007-01-11 07:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
look friends with benefits usualy leave you feeling empty and you land up loosing a really cool friendship with someone because there is always a part of you left behind.. its not a good idea to open a friendship where what you guys do is meaningless you never will look at each other normally as just friends... but if thats what makes you happy then best way to go about it is ask her how she feels about friends with benefits and what she would think about having the experience with you she can either hate the idea or love it... be a gentleman about it right from the begining and if you are a gentleman always then maintaining to be a well mannerd guy should not be of the problem if any arise anyway have fun....!!
2007-01-11 15:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being friends with benefits but you need to be a "respectful" friend buy her flowers, or take her out to eat sometime (not a lot) just make sure you keep the lines of communication open, it goes bad when one of the people involved thinks that your going to be more than friends in the end!
2007-01-11 15:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lead her on at first, get together a few times before the relationship starts to build up. then when asked what you are looking for ,say you are not ready for a relationship at the moment but will be one day or somthing sincere. most likley if you were going to be **** buddies it would have happened in the first 2hours of meeting her/ taking her home.....
2007-01-11 15:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by CAt-Got-Ur-BallS? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask, I promise she'll let you know either way. When I was younger all I wanted was a booty call for a while and all the guys wanted to date after and it was effing annoying. Make sure if all you want to do is screw you let her know up front that there is no potiential for an emotional relationship.
2007-01-11 15:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're in luck, because I know *exactly* how to do this. I know because I once proposed this very situation to a terrific guy; it worked out very well for us for over a year (then we went back to just being friends).
Unfortunately, I can't tell you how to do this, because I am over 34.
Next time, invite those older, and maybe I can help you.
Good luck, kid!
2007-01-11 15:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You mentioned if a man "needed" to be friedns with benefits--hhhmmmm--I'm confused.
I am afraid there is not a really good way to ask. If you do decide to ask and she is game--GREAT!! If she does not agree you risk here thinking you are a jerk and only want one thing and you risk her not wanting a relationship at all.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 15:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by FTB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's very cute of you to be concerned, but in my experience, this type of thing never works because emotions from one or both parties dirty up the simplicity of the arrangement. If you want to do it, just ask...make sure the terms are clear before you have sex though.
2007-01-11 15:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all you have to do is say...i need a friend with benefits, you wanna be the one??? and if you get slapped, move on to the next one...until you find one to say yes! =)
i would text her the question somewhere in your conversation with her...
good luck finding a friend with benefits, and when you find one...WELCOME TO THE CLUB!
2007-01-11 15:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hmm
my question is why do men only want friends with benefits relationships?
Anyways-
I guess hey - im not looking for a serious relationship right now.
haha i dont know dude -
why dont you ask the guys
2007-01-11 15:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mia l 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋