I really like this kid named Chris. We talk a lot and flirt and hang out all the time. I think he likes me but I can't quite tell. We have the same guy friends so when we all hang out, Chris only hangs out with me and talks to me. We joke around and flirt. He's really nice to me and really funny. The thing I'm confused about it that he's a naturally nice kid. Except to people he doesn't like.
Today on the bus we were talking and he was looking into my eyes and listening intently (sp?). Also he had said something and I was laughing and he smiled at me a lot. We talk a lot and I don't know if he likes me or if I'm just one of his friends. I really like him. I mean every time we talk I can't help but smile when I'm around him.
One time when he and I and our guy friends were hanging out he took me alone and we sat on this bench and he showed me a gorgeous view of across the river. It was before Christmas and lights over the river were on and it was a clear sky and it was really pretty. He sat really close to me too.
Okay, he's a really hard one to figure out. He's really really nice to me. Like as if we were already going out. We've never actually gone to the point where if we got any closer we could have kissed. I think he would be a good boyfriend because it's all about personality with him. He doesn't care about looks and that's what makes me feel good. I'm not ugly but I'm not absolutely gorgeous. I'm just pretty ya know? I don’t want to sound conceited because I have the worst self-esteem. I'm just starting to notice it. Anyway, when he smiles at me it's not like "ugh get away from me" fake smile it's a sincere smile. Like he's into me. I don't know but I'm really afraid to ask him if he likes me. He's in my world history class and goes on my bus.
I sit in the seat next to him everyday on the bus. He talks to me but never really stares at me. I really don’t think he likes me but I just can’t tell. Sometimes I’ll just be listening while he’s talking and he won’t look at me and he doesn’t stare at me likes he’s in love with me. I’m so confused.
2007-01-11 07:01:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're both single and 14. His birthday is 10 days before mine and we're really close. But...idk HOW close
2007-01-11 07:13:43 · update #1
Sounds like he likes you. Either you need to work up the nerve to ask him or take it to the next level or just keep things how they are and wait for him to make the first move. He's probably just as nervous as you are, wondering the same things.
2007-01-11 07:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ,first, take a deep breath, calm down. You are crushin big time! The only way you will ever know for sure is to ask him. Thats hard to do. You could wait around for him to ask you. He might like you, but he might be waiting until he's sure you like him. Guy's are weird like that...they have very sensitive ego's! I am concerned about your age though, I could probably help more if I knew that. Relationships are different at different ages. My advice right now is to leave things alone. Just let it go and see what happens. Sometimes, It is better to just be friends. You seem to have a great friendship and you wouldnt want to mess that up by throwing all that relationship stuff into it. When I was in highschool I was head over heels in love with my best guy friend. We hung out all the time, talked on the phone all hours of the night, and even kissed a few times..We both really liked each other but we were both afraid to date because if one of us screwed up, everything would change and we would both lose our best friend. We never dated. He ended up dating my best friend for years, and they almost got married. I do regret never being able to see what wouldve happened, but, things went on and now I am happily married to a wonderful man and we have a sweet 3 year old son. Anyway, the point is, you have to decide whats more important to you. Having a boyfriend for a while, or a friend for life??? Think about it. I hope I helped.
2007-01-11 15:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure exactly what you want? Sounds like he's pretty fond of you, but maybe not ready for the girlfriend part yet. But in the meantime I would work on getting your self-esteem better. You need more confidence in yourself! You could do this by making good changes in yourself, that maybe you have thought about. Start thinking positive about yourself-practice-never stop! Read books on self-esteem. Let the guy come to you, don't set yourself up for a downer, that would really blow your confidence to the ground! Get involved with school activities to boost your self esteem. Bottom line-be your own best friend!!
2007-01-11 15:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dilemma dilemma, just ask him, if you don't want to do it directly, ask him what kind of girl he likes, or what he's looking for, and then go from there. Pay attention if he treats the other female friends the same way, that should give you an idea as well.
2007-01-11 15:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Frank the tank 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dose he treat everyone to the same degree? Or do you seem to get more of his attention. Just be yourself, and if you are intersted in him, show intrest, Life will take care of the rest, things have a way of working out.
2007-01-11 15:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would really seem like he does like you. he likes to spend time with you.....he treats you nice.....he may just be shy. do you know if he has had or has a girlfriend? how old r u? and him? there is an attraction. if he did NOT like you, he would not want to be around you. keep flirting and drop a few hints about wanting to see a certain movie or something and see if he picks up on it and asks you to go with HIM to see it.........
2007-01-11 15:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter and see how he feels towards being more than friends. over the phone can be kind of uncomfortable over the phone. you may want to think about if you broke up with him how it would work since you have the same friends
2007-01-11 15:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by spiratic 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him you shouldnt be confused,if you think he may like you then ask him in a way like send him a love letter to see if he anwsers you yes or no and wait for an anwser but it sounds like to me he likes you try that and see if that works or if you know his e-mail address ask him, what would it hurt to know how he feels for you im sure you will get a positive anwser and if not well theres others you will meet who will see you for you .and you will really like but just send him a letter or e-mail expressing how you like him and you would like to know if he feels the same way then you will know
2007-01-11 15:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by smokeyshadow7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down, take a deep breath, tell him that you like someone, anyone, and see what he says, if he dogs the guy and says stuff like hes not good enough then he likes you..... if he doesnt really care, well, he doesnt really care.....
2007-01-11 15:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by kellbelle21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can give him some signs that u r into him but dont ask him out..spend more time with him, get to know him better
2007-01-11 15:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by rosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋