My step-dad just got back home from another country a couple of weeks ago from a 6 year business trip. I haven't seen him since I was 8 years old. Anyways, I'm 14 and I am home schooled. My grandma used to come over to school me but my step-dad has taken her place since he is home off business. but the other day he was sick with a fever and after mom left for work he wanted me to lay down with him. I didn't think much about it and went in there to lay. He asked me to go get a wet rag for him for his fever. I went to the kitchen and got it for him and I came back and put it on his forehead. Then out of nowhere he said its time for a tickle fight, just to let you know im 14 and to old for that kind of stuff. but here is where it gets weird. He started tickleing the side of my hips but he started pulling my bottom into his pelvis area and I felt him squueze my butt kinda when he was tickling me.Should I tell my mom about? I feel unconformable about it but he might of been an accident.
2007-01-11 06:57:42 · 10 answers · asked by Emily W. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
now that I think about I remember him doing similar stuff when he was here before before going off on his business
2007-01-11 07:25:50 · update #1
TELL YOUR MOTHER NOW!!!!! Please don't wait a moment longer. You really need to let her know, the next time you may have a totally different type of fight, the kind where you have to fight him off of you. Tell her, he is a man who is doing what he shouldn't be doing and you are a child.
2007-01-11 07:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should certainly inform your mother and let her know what happened and how it made you feel. If it was just an accident or innocent on his behave that is one thing. But if he was trying to either get arousal for himself or you then this is very inappropriate behaviour. As well as you've stated you are now 14 and at this age it is viewed as unnatural for a child of that age, regardless of sex, to be lying down with a parent for a tickle fight. If he was chasing you around the house playing for tickle fight that is one thing but to do it in a bed is another. So please do inform mom of your feelings and let her know how uncomfortable this action made you feel. Best of luck and I hope that this type of behaviour is ceased immediately by your step-dad.
2007-01-11 07:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tuff one in a way maybe he still percieves you as the 8 year old that he used to know. but i would highly say not. as far as a innocent tickle fight your never to old for that. personally i would let this one ride and watch him does he do other things that make you uncomfortable. but yes i think that you should go to your mom and tell her exactly what you have said here. 6 years is a long time to be away from someone, your mom may not even know him anymore.
2007-01-11 07:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by jhdjkhblpk;mvhyf nbjhghbmnbjgb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused as a child and I now work in a clinic for sexually abused children. This is the way he starts to "feel out" how far he can go with you by tickling..very common perpetrator moves..he will go on from there and soon he will be having sex with you...don't let him go any further and please don't let your mom dismiss this....if she does nothing then tell a school counselor who is mandated to get you some help...you are the one who will have to live with the nightmares so take care of yourself please......
2007-01-15 04:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by eubysgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother immediately! Don't be at home alone with him. Tell your grandmother you need her to homeschool you again. This was not an accident. Trust your gut feelings--you're uncomfortable and don't talk yourself out of it. A responsible adult would not act this way with a teenager. If your mom doesn't do anything about it tell your grandmother. Good Luck!
2007-01-11 07:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell right away. don't wait if you have to call your mom at work and tell her you need her to come home right away, tell you there is something improtant that you need to talk to her about and it can't wait. If she doesn't listen when you tell her or she gets mad don't wait and go to the police station or call 911 and tell them what is going on.
best of luck and if you need to talk just let me know my e-mail at cowgirl_from_hell020@yahoo.com
2007-01-11 08:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom right now..............all of a sudden he's not feelin sick any more and wants to tickle fight........this was his way of approching you without you thinkin anything of it.............sweetie this was no accident.................tell it
2007-01-11 07:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't an accident. And even if it was, it was inappropriate.
2007-01-11 07:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way this was an accident! TELL YOUR MOTHER IMMEDIATELY!
2007-01-11 07:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by SassySister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, tell, tell, tell. If your mom doesn't listen, tell another adult you trust, either at school or call the police.
Please!
2007-01-11 07:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by fab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋