My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we are still very much in love. Recently, my husband was promoted and his company wants to send him overseas. I don't like this one bit. I hated when he went to see his brother and he was only gone a week. We interact all the time and I don't really have any friends. When he leaves, I'm bored out of my mind and I start going crazy. I know going overseas is a major opportunity but how could I convince him to tell his company that he's not able to go overseas. I know it sounds selfish of me but I literally go insane. Also, they give absolutely no advanced warning when they send their people overseas. They book the flight as soon as the person is notified. If they did send him, it'd be atleast 2 weeks before he could return...How should I go about asking him to stay and I don't want to hear that I just need to make friends so I'm not lonely. I simply can't.
2007-01-11 06:55:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm enrolled in classes at a community college and I'd prefer not to revert back to how I was before my husband came along...I was depressed and lonely.
2007-01-11 07:06:23 · update #1
I can't afford to go with him. I can't take that much time off with going to school and working. Plus it's always last minute. I'm a poor college student
2007-01-11 07:07:35 · update #2
Really, if you love your husband, you want the best for him. This sounds like a great opportunity. You need to find some interests in your life other than just your husband. You will smother him and lose him if you expect him to be your whole life. Volunteer at a school, get to know your neighbors, take a class at a community college. Do something that interests you. Helping others makes you feel great. Remember who you are and what you were like before you met your husband. Get out there and join the world! Good Luck!
2007-01-11 07:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I hate to admit but I would feel exactly the same way. Just like you ..I do not have many or any friends that could occupy my time while hubby would be gone and I would definitely go crazy if I had no choice in the matter. I think about those possibilities often and ask myself why do I feel like that? Am I that depended on him or do I just not trust him? Why is it that you feel so helpless and lonely without him? Life will eventually throw something your way that you can not influence and you will just have to deal with it when it happens. Something is wrong if you can't stand to be away from him for a certain amount of time. You two are not siamese twins...you have to be able to spend time apart. It might even do your relationship good in the long run. If not, get out now and work on your personal issues before getting into a new one. I don't think he would keep a job that he didn't like and obviously he was aware of the fact that the possibility exists of him having to leave the country sooner or later. Maybe he wants to go? How does he feel about it?
2007-01-11 15:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Yvonne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go with him. If there is nothing for you over here then why don't you go with him and see how things work out there. Who knows yall may like and want to stay there.
2007-01-11 15:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by plzhelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋