The only reason he said this is because he plans on moving for his job...am i crazy for staying with him now...am i even more crazy for thinking to myself that i would actually move to where his job takes him even though it means switching jobs and college? oh, and even though we have only been going out for a few months, we went out about 3 1/2 years ago for a year...Should i follow my heart or my head??
2007-01-11 06:46:56 · 17 answers · asked by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HEAD!!!
2007-01-11 06:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tells you it is not a good idea to have a girlfriend, he is being straight forward. Men do not beat around the bush with emotions, they say exactly what they mean and it sounds like he is not ready to settle down. Do NOT!! move with him or you will regret it. If he loves you, you will know because men DO NOt waste time acting on love. If they are not in love they will see you as a friend. They compartmentalize their lives and decide where you fit in all on their own, and you can't convince them to change their minds. Trying to convince them scares them off.He will start appriciating you more when you draw the line and do not cross it for anything. You should finish college and live your dreams. If he loves you he will be the one making sacrifices to be with you. He may love you now but he is not IN love with you and he needs to know that you will be happy without him before he will appreciate you TRUST me I learned to be content alone even if it was killing me I didn't settle for chasing men who were unavailable . He will come around if he really loves you and that may take longer than you really want to wait. Also when you find the right one, you won't have to look back on your life and regret that you made all the sacrifices for a man and no man made any for you....best wishes.
2007-01-12 09:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your head. Can't give a good reason other than trust me. Plus, switching jobs AND college? Sounds like too much work for a guy who isn't too sure about a "relationship".
2007-01-11 14:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your head. He's being nice about it, but he's blowing you off. With a new job and new city, he won't have the time to deal with you or your relocation problems. BTW, why did you break up 3 1/2 yrs. ago?
2007-01-11 14:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your HEAD...he is tellin you he doesnt want a girlfriend so dont push it walk away, Do not offer to change your life for a man who really doesnt want you it will only get worse and you will walk out with the broken heart askin why and reminding him what you have done for him when he really doesnt care. Walk away and wash your hands with this one when one door closes another door opens move one to bigger better things, dont put yourself through unneeded pain.
2007-01-11 15:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by chrissylynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that strongly go for it, take the risk if things dont work out you can always move back. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 14:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by acm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you Love him and if you do can you honestly see yourself being with him for the rest of your life? If you answered no to either than dont go but if you think he is the one for you and no one else go with your heart other wise you will regret it
2007-01-11 14:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always follow your head!
What if he starts changing.....you know? and you have made such drastic adjustments in your life like that? If it was meant to be then it will be. I don't think you have been with him long enough to make such a change.
2007-01-11 14:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your goals, don't follow a man! your not married to him, broke up with him once before, Plus he said he dosent want a girlfriend. You know the answer to this, use your head!! Please!
2007-01-11 14:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by sw312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your heart speaks a language that your mind can't understand
ACT with the heart but think with your head
2007-01-11 14:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by susanarng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your head. he is obviously not as committed to this relationship as you are. did you suggest to him about you moving also? his reaction to that will tell you all you need to know. that reaction alone wil tel you to follow your heart or your head.
2007-01-11 14:53:53 · answer #11 · answered by beechjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋