Is it a normal or a ok idea, to try and get to know or build a friendship with your partner's Ex?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a little more then a year now. He was my first love, my first every thing. But like most stories I was not his.It happens that his ex and I attend the same school and often see each other on the way to our classes. But have never talked to one another before. But we both have the picture that one hates the other. So a few days ago I just had enough of the built up tinshon between us that I wrote her a note sying that I didn't have a problem with her and I would really enjoy if we could become friends and get to know one another more.
She was more then happy to hear from me and loved the idea of becoming friends. For the past few days we have even past notes about our selves to one another and i even invited her to hang out with my friends and I this weekend.This all sounds so great, but the problem is. I dont understand why I felt or feel the need to Get to know her? Or why I even want to be her friend? Is this wrong? I'm so Lost! Please Help! =(

Answer 1

i think it's a good idea to get to know her. she might give you suggestions how to work on your relationship but you have to make sure that she is a good person first.