I have really liked this person for ages, but I am unsure if I should tell him how I feel. Every human being fears rejection and I am no exception. I really do care for this person...but one thing I think would stand in my way is religion.
I myself am a non-catholic and I have no problem with him being a Catholic (I like him for what he is and that is part of him), but I fear rejection by him on the grounds that i am a non-catholic.
Personally I think religion has nothing to do with true love - in fact true love should overcome these things.
But he is very devout and I am in two minds if I should tell him or not. Is it common for devout catholics, I mean those who attend weekly mass to fall in love with or have a relationship with a non-catholic?
I won't bother telling him how I feel if I have no chance of going out with him on confessional grounds. I am scared of getting a broken heart...but I care about him so much.
2007-01-11 06:41:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i think you should go for it. i'm a devout catholic and i would have no problem at all going out with or marrying someone who wasn't.
2007-01-11 06:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some don't. The main obstacle is, I'm assuming most devout Catholics will at least want to be married in the church, if it ever got to that. The fact that I'm aware of a lot of the rules means there must be a lot of "mixed" marriages. To be married in the church, a couple would have to attend pre-Canaan classes (which actually are pretty smart info on how to be married), and the non-Catholic member must sign a document promising that any children will be raised Catholic.
It doesn't hurt to see. Just be aware that relationships with mixed religious beliefs take more work.
2007-01-11 14:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Vaughn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Catholic - maybe not as devout as you say he is but I'm catholic all the same and I'd deffo have a relationship with non-catholics. It makes no difference what denomination of christianity. I don't know whether you are a christian or not though??? because if you aren't then he may not...but ask him anyway! A broken heart is better than kicking yourself for years knowing may have had a chance - even if he declines he'll be nice about it I'll bet. Don't miss this oppurtunity whatever you do...you sound like you really care about him. So just bury your pride and tell him how you feel woman!
Good luck x
2007-01-11 14:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my... well if you are talking about a simple relationship then typically not a problem. But If you are talking marriage, then most strict catholic priests will not marry a couple unless the other person converts. Some will allow them to marry but only after "classes".
If I were you don't look that far into the future. Give it a try, you never know what will happen. You may get it out of your system, or the both of you may find religion doesn't matter.
I am non denominational Christian, and my husband is catholic.
I did not convert, the issue never came up.
Get it off your chest, tell him how you feel, atleast you will know where he stands.
2007-01-11 14:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be frank, Devout catholics doesn't have an extra horn! They are not to be considered as Christians! Note the word "Devout Catholics" and it is not "Devout Christians" The questioner is not concerned about the faith and belief, but just like believing in a poltical party ethos, (s)he is believing in Catholicism...
To the matter... There is a biblical restriction on getting married with a non-believer. Since you both are non-believers according to Bible, the Ultimate answer and God's only given word, you don't have any problem in getting married just like any other pagan religious people. I really meant this! You are none other than pagan.
2007-01-11 15:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by nibin_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many devout catholics who are married to non-Catholics. i also know devout Catholics that would never consider even dating someone who was not catholic. It all depends on the person.
If you are afraid of rejection, you do not love this guy enough. A profession of love should not depend on reciprocation of love. Love is not an emotion. Love is putting the deires and needs of another person ahead of your own. At this point you are putting your need of acceptance ahead of what you can do for him.
If you truly love him, tell him. If he loves you as well, great. if he does not, are you going to stop loving him? If yes, then you really do not love him. If he does not have the same level of feelings for you, love him as a friend.
2007-01-11 17:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else! The world is full of eligible people and there are ones out that are compatible with your beliefs. If you somehow ended up with this guy you'd be pressured into attending masses you didn't enjoy, or believe in, and be forced to sign papers agreeing to raise your children as Catholics. Its not worth it.
2007-01-11 14:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by Michael da Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not within the scope of lengthy rules they are supposed to follow, though some Priests will allow it if the non-catholic converts. Just another one of those lovely catholic double-standards.
Sure you still have no problem with it? Religion and beliefs are a huge deal, so watch your step and make sure it's really what you want before diving in.
2007-01-11 14:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by hjfr27 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him. If he rejects you based on the fact that you are a non-catholic, then he wasn't worth it in the first place.
2007-01-11 14:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can both get married, it would be commonsense to talk about your difficulties to each other before you go any further. Ours worked. If he loves you as much as you love him, it is up to the both of you to make things work. No one else. Hope that helps. Us catholics do bleed also!
2007-01-11 14:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Plato 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋