2007-01-11 06:40:36 · 6 answers · asked by jskinner523 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
When you find out let me know. My son goes through the same thing, except that he has ADHD, and he tends to internalize things. Even things that have absolutely nothing to do with him, I think sometimes it's just easier for him to become angry, rather than show he's hurt or something. We are trying to teach him to redirect the anger and frustration into positive actions. It's not easy, and it may take longer because he's so young. My son is 8, just turned 8. Although he has gotten somewhat better, it's still hard sometime. Also make sure there's nothing going on that's really stressing him out. I figured out that when I was working over 50 hours a week and going to school, that his behavior got much worst, and his school was stressing him out, so I had to switch him. He is so different now that he's in a new school it's amazing.
2007-01-11 06:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was like that especially in school!! This worked for me; what I did was to first talk to him calmly and ask him what is going on? Did you have a bad day in school? Maybe talk to him at the park somewhere quiet and let him talk without interrupting him. Then when you are finished talking, then make a deal with him saying that if you have a great day at school, then at the end of the day we can get some ice cream, toy, etc. some type of reward. Make sure that you talk to his teacher to find out if he had a great day, then give him praise. Now if he is not showing outbursts at school, then maybe he is watching way too much television and acting like the characters or playstation or whatever, try reading together. Whatever you do, spend time together that is the key. Good luck.
2007-01-11 10:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by shasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this answer comes to you with limited psychology training and much work with children of all ages. every child is case by case basis. there is no one general reason why but these are some reasons i have observed and some possible solutions. the child learned this behavior from some authority figure or the child is being bullied by other kids siblings school or neighbor or your child is very intelligent and finds him self frustrated being in a high awareness level with little ability (as most children do because it is the nature of being a child ) to controll his environment this causes frustration.
there must be some sort of pattern of events you see leading up to these outbursts, i suggest lowering refined sugars in the diet.
exercise martial arts are good because for children they also do some behavior modification- discipline training.
Talk with him when he is not mad . explain to him that this behavior is unacceptable. explain you too become angered and ways you deal with it . next time he becomes angered he is to sit down breath controll him self he will be allowed to excuse himself momentarily until he gets his emotions in check and dis cuss what is making him angry explain that the next time his behavior is causing chaos you have to be specific about what is not except able there will be a penalty that will increase each time it happens. no x box one week should get his attention. we all have to learn this discipline because it gets worse as time goes by and will interfere with the quality of his life. let him read age appropriate material s on emotional intelligence scientists and social workers as well as human resource managers agree
that emotional intelligence is more important that i q intelligence quotient . it may not seem like that big a deal not because it is from time to time but it will only get worse if unchecked but it is your good parenting that made you concerned enough to ask this question feel free to click on my avatar and send me a message if you think i can be of further help
2007-01-11 07:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by dancfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they uncontrollable outbursts? Like he can't help it?
Or are they more like temper tantrums?
It can be several things though, if he is having a hard time controlling them then it could be something serious. I suggest letting his pediatrician know about these so they can examine it further. It could be autism, or even tourette syndrome.
2007-01-11 06:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Casey B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that bad take him to see a councilor
2007-01-11 06:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to the docs..he sounds emotionally unstable for his age..not normal.
2007-01-11 06:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by bandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋