Hiya people, right where do i start, i met this guy about 2 years ago, when i was 14, and he was into gangs and stuff, but we fell in love ( i no that sound cheesy but its true) and he ended up in jail just before my 15th, and so i vowed my self to wait for him, and i did, up untill october when i got fed up of watching others with their partners and what not, and i got approached by this guy and i took the opportunity to be with him, i sent a txt to my jail bird to let him know what was happening, and a month later me and the new guy split up, i tried to send an email to the one in jail to let him know but it bounced back so i assumed that the account had closed itself because it wasnt in use for so long, and then today i came home from work and got a txt saying that i betrayed him, and that i better watch over my shoulder etc, thing is i really do love this guy,, but dont take the whole gang thing lightly, he was DEEP into it, so he can easly slip back into that way of thinking,
2007-01-11 06:08:52 · 22 answers · asked by ladee_in_luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont want him to feel hurt, i know i shouldnt have done what i did but i was fed up of being by myself, and i just wanted the feeling he gave me back, i dont care if hes out to hurt me know, i just wanna know, how do i make it up to him and allow him to see that this fling really wasnt that serious...and it really wasnt....
2007-01-11 06:10:33 · update #1
Beyonce said it best "To the left, to the left.."
Ditch this guy and move. I don't feel you will be very safe when he gets out.
2007-01-11 06:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but this is very serious. First of all lemme say you should confide in the Lord Almighty, then second you should not blame yourself for him being mad at you...he was in jail, and you were bored of being alone. I did the same thing..you cant wait for someone all your life, and he shouldn't have expected you to do it either. If he is out to hurt you, then he never really loved you in the first place, and he only cares about his own selfish desires to have whatever you offer him. I know you may love him but was he really worth it. Oh yeah he made you feel like a real woman, and when he smiled your heart melted, but is he really worth your happiness>? In the long run, will he be there for you, and give you all that you desire. And this gang issue is serious, if you have kids, they can be affected severely by all this gang stuff, how do you know when he will quit? If he is giving you problems, then forget about him because he is obviously not a real man, otherwise he would be treating you like a gentleman is supposed too. How old is he anyway, I hope he is not a padophile...?
2007-01-15 06:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummh...I hate to break it 2 you girlfriend but what the hell makes you think he's been staying faithful 2 you? **** HAPPENS....if he has ANY common sense whatsoever he will realize 14 is TOO young to swear off intimacy UNTIL your older(by age only)NOT too damn mature; if his primary address is a jail/prison. Don't take this advice to your grave w/o considering all explanations. How long did they give your ex? How much longer does he have left? Can you visit him; often? What did he get incarcarated for? ETC? I had a boyfriend go to prision; he was facing 5 more years for breaking his parole at I told him... If I was him.....I think I'd change my sexual preference." I visited him every sat. while in jail (1-1h30m drive) until he was transferred to MO prison few hrs away. It was shortly after this transfer that my ex b/f and I parted ways. IT was good to see you.
2007-01-11 06:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! You are a young woman with your whole life ahead of you. This jail bird sounds like a real loser. Start concentrating on you and bettering your self! Then you can find a real man who is beautiful and good.-you will fall in and out of love many times.
2007-01-11 06:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Runaway Love
2007-01-11 06:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by T-wizzy_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people here who are encouraging you to drop this loser are right! You may not see it now, but you WILL find THE one who will make you happy and will be good to you. DON'T SETTLE! You deserve more than you realize right now, or you wouldn't be trying to get your jailbird back.
And . . . you MUST MUST MUST call the police and tell your parents about the threat he made to you via text message. He may not do anything at all to hurt you, but he may hurt another girl and I know you don't want that on your mind!
Good Luck and don't give up!
2007-01-11 06:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lorese K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may be hurt, but if he loves you the way you claim, he wouldn't threaten you. That is basic commen sense.
Take that text to the police and get a restraining order. If something does happen to you, the police will have proof of why to suspect him.
2007-01-11 06:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by an_awsome_woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't left that way of thinking. Gangs are stupid and only for "stupid" kids. They are nothing but punks who enjoy shooting out innocent peoples windows in there home or killing someone because they look at them wrong. What's wrong with you? How can that be love, I hope you didn't put you or your family in jeopardy by even associating with him. Kids who are in gangs need to go to jail and stay there.......till they open their eyes and see what they are doing wrong....................
2007-01-11 06:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol wow. What were you THINKINGGGG telling him you did that??? Why does he need to know in the first place hun. Remember thats YOUR business not his, and that anything you tell him in the first place that doesn't concern you TWO is going to definately make him mad.
Call him and see how he reacts, if he's mad as hell still just hang up without another word. Its that simple
2007-01-11 06:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by flawless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him u thought it through and it's not him it's just that ur looking for a diff. life style now.and dont feel guilty about the fling coz if it was him he wouldnt have lasted as long.
2007-01-11 06:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋