How do I ask out a girl I have gone to school with since elementary school and I have liked for 6 years?

Question

We are both seniors in college and have been friends for a long time.

Answer 1

First you have to weigh the options. Take into consideration how things might work out ofter you tell her. If things worked out the way you would want them to, then great! But what if she ends up not being interested in you like that? Would she be the type to feel awkward around you after you tell her how you feel? If so, that might put a damper on your friendship.
On a brighter note, I think that the best relatioships start out from friendships. You need to also be friends with your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband or wife.
I guess that only you know the answer to your question. If you do take the chance and tell her how you feel it is possible that bad things could happen but I believe worse things happen to our souls when we don't take the chance and tell someone how we truly feel.
Good luck to you!

Answer 2

My advice for you would be to ask her one day when your together if she has any feelings for you. Ask her if she could see your friendship relationship leading anywhere else. You guys know a lot about each other and maybe she's thinking the same way you do, you never know! Just be careful not to push the situation too hard, and if she rejects you don't let it alter your friendship. Sometimes friendships cant be fixed if it goes on an intimate bases and you become a couple...and say you break up...it's hard to stay freinds. Just think carefully about how you say things and how you may come across when bringing the big question to the table (could you see yourself as my girlfriend?). And good luck!

Answer 3

Just say hey lets go out to dinner sometime. Be honest. Find out if she likes you the way you like her. Even if she wants to just be friends, at least you will know so you can begin to move on. And if there is a spark between you both then thats great cause you are already comfortable with each other and have things in common.

Answer 4

You need to live. Life involves risk. Overcoming such shyness is critical to living your life. You're main risk here is losing a girlFRIEND. IF she is one of your truest, dearest friends, then do NOT risk it. Losing a true friend is not worth it. The friendship will not be lost because she is not into you, it will be lost because you will not be able to be friends with someone who rejected your interest. Trust this advice, lived it a few times.

Ask out some other girls, get some experience without risking losing a good friend, then, you will not need to ask such questions, you will have gained the experiences needed to know what to do with regard to this friend, and go from there.

Answer 5

That is so sweet! But you need to be honest with your friend about how you truly feel about her. Who knows she may be feeling the same way. Don't make any moves on her unless you talk to her first about it. If she does not feel the same way just asking her out may scare her away from your friendship. Sit her down and tell her that you like her more than just a friend and have for a while but never knew how to tell her. Remember just be your self and be honest good luck!!!

Answer 6

Tell hey you LOVE her, not like. Just walk up to her when she doesn't have alot of people around her and ask her. Say, "Hey, you got a minute? K, this is kinda tough... I have something to tell you. For the past six years, we have been good friends. I But.. have you ever wanted to be more?" Look at her facial expression to know whether to go on. " Cuz, well, I have. I'll understand if you don't feel the same, but I had to tell you. I love you." Then kinda turn to go and then turn back around, look at her in the EYES and then turn back around. Talk over your shoulder and say "See ya later." Call her later and apologize for scaring her, but that you were telling the truth, and if she would like to go to lunch tomorrow.

I don't know if this will work, but good luck with what ever you choose to go through with.

Answer 7

First off: if she has a boyfriend, don't. You'll only kill any future opportunities.
If she doesn't, try just going for it. Ask her out on a date to some place very identified with romantic couples and she'll probably mention how that's weird. That's your moment. Tell it to her straight right then and there, and then GO on the date!

Answer 8

The song "Kiss the rain" in Dawson's creek...that's your case!
Do you know that scene?
He just said: I cant take this...I love you. Not in a friendly way, although I think we're great friends. I love you, very simple, very true...I coldn't allow another day to go by without saying it to you.
I know that some part of you hesitates for a moment, and if there's a moment of hesitation than that means that you feel something too...please know, that I'm forever changed because of who you are, and what you mean to me.

Well...that should work...

Look, I think that she allready knows that you like her. I had the same situation with my best friend, and I knew. But he never told me. Don't make the same mistake, you could lose her. Tell her before it's too late. Just be honest.

Answer 9

haha, Totally!

You're just like me. Shy & all. I'd been there. And trust me, even if it doesn't turn out as expected, you should at least have a memory of that date. Your friendship will be able to withstand any aftermath. And oh, life is about taking risks. You both could mean more than special than each other, so be a man and pull up those guts!

All the best. :)

Answer 10

Just ask the girl if you have know here for that long chances are that she feels really confortable with you and if she says no at least you tried. I don't think that it will ruin your friendship either. it might take time to get back to normal if it dosn't work but in time it will be the same