i know its a stupid question but..ever have one of those feelings when you just want it to work out but no matter how hard you try and how much work you put in there's always something missing??its always not good enough!!??
2007-01-11 06:08:11 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When the court order arrives.....
2007-01-11 06:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours is NOT a stupid question. Truth be told most people have this thought at least once, if not several times in their lifetimes, in relationship to others ! Often times when one has invested time & emotions in a realtionship it is difficult to just let go...when you sense that after much effort and genuine care there is still something missing chances are...there is a void that the person you are with cannot fill. It doesn't make them a bad person, or you a bad person for stating what you're feeling & what your not feeling. And if indeed you fostered a valuable friendship with this person you don't have to terminate all feelings. Sounds like you're going through a transition ...when something doesn't feel good enough you have a choice to, just settle or shift gears and move forward to unchartered territory. ...its take courage to risk...it is fear that will keep you from moving out of the place that , in your words "just doesn't feel right" into the unknown...your choice..I do suggest you handle the change with respect & dignity otherwise the time you have invested in the realtionship could feel like a total loss to the both of you..I believe each relationship moves us closer to the one that will be the one that feels good enough in every concievable way...good luck...
2007-01-11 06:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are at a point where you ask this question and you feel like no matter how hard you try it's just not working out- then IT is the time to get out of the relationship...
2007-01-11 06:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a stupid question at all. If you feel in your gut that it's time to give up, then do so. If you feel that you are the only one trying in the relationship and there is no reciprocation ask yourself is that what you really want. It takes two to build a relationship, and if one is not willing to put their effort into it, then it's really not worth it.
A realtionship is never going to be perfect. You will fight, disagree, and what not. But if you don't have trust, or all of one person then you really have nothing.
Trust when I say that sometimes love is just not enough.
2007-01-11 06:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a stupid question, but it is something that everyone will have a totally different perspective. As for myself I make the decision to get out of relationships when (1) if after six months I don't really know the person. You should have an idea of personality and such (2) if I'm not happy with the relationship.
2007-01-11 06:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by malinda_us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you get into a relationship with a woman but you have no intentions of marrying her. You eventually hit a dead end with no room for growth. Its time to call it quits and move on.
Granted this is not a reason to get married and I am not suggesting that everyone should get married if they are perfectly happy with being on the dating scene and playing the field.
But those who are looking for more in a relationship other than going out to dinner, having sex, and demanding attention from each other will never find the fulfillment that they are seeking.
2007-01-11 06:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look when you've tried and tried and it still doesn't work than you know its over its just time to let go no matter how much it hurts but the truth is that person is not for you and you deserve better than what they are putting forth so just let go because you will get pass that relationship and find someone better .
2007-01-11 06:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling that it's never good enough then you need to move on and let the woman go.
Sometimes we have a false perception of what we think our relationships should be. All too often those perceptions are way off from the real world...
2007-01-11 06:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. If you try to make it better, it will only get worst. Count out the good and compare to the bad. If the bad out weights the good, the decision will be easy. Its obvious that there is something there that you like, but your looking for more. The other person may be okay, but you will always want more.
2007-01-11 06:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by jr8551_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going through the same thing with a boyfriend of mine ~ Finally I decided that the relationship wasn't good if I was having doubts about it. The relationship just wasn't what I wanted it to be but I'm happy with my decision and now i'm seeing someone that I am very happy with. The relationship isn't perfect but i'm not as stressed out as I was in the other one.
Good Luck~
2007-01-11 06:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by SadBrownEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to let go when the relationship is just not worth salvaging anymore. If you are constantly fighting and bickering, and not having fun anymore, it might be best to leave the unhappy, unstable relationship before things get so far off course someone really gets hurt. If you aren't having fun anymore and can't stand to be around each other.
If you both still have more to give and are willing to sacrifice, then keep trying.
2007-01-11 06:25:39 · answer #11 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋