Wfe had a thing going for 1 night and it was just kissing etc. He was my childhood friend. After this I settled down with another guy but we remained friends on and off. He blows hot and cold with me. one minute is great and the next quite off with me. He changed so much. Before he used to be loving and didn't care if a girl had blonde or brown hair now he only goes for brown hair since I have blonde I never thought about it until someone pointed out I know it sounds silly he talks about looks more and much now. I can go into detail but it seems he has immatured over the years rather than matured. I must have scarred him so i've been told. He is so superficial now before he had a lot of love to give. He told me ages ago when he was tipsy and said he wouldn't love again. I didn't think he meant me because we are just friends. He doesn't talk much and when he does these days I get the feeling he is lying to himself and to me.
Can love hurt so much it changes someone?
2007-01-11 06:06:50 · 19 answers · asked by starburst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes..people change if they have been badly hurt because they dont want to feel that pain again.
2007-01-15 01:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is looks like here you had a secret admirer who wish your one evening kiss lasted longer and probably expanded into more serious stuff like being together, but you started dating someone else. It honestly seems like one of those movie scenes where a guy afraid to express his feelings so he is not being turned down by his crush, but he kind of did. I wouldnt say you scared him; matter of fact not at all. It is just pride sometime is all we have. So i think the reason why he would even say stuff like he goes only for brown hair girls is to pinpoint the fact that he is not interested in you. Why would he do that? Well remember you went off with someone else at some point when that one kiss could of been a whole event for him so now he will make sure he puts himself out as if he never been hurt and whatever didnt last between two of you never fazed him, BECAUSE he was hurt.
You guys just need to go out for a quiet coffie time and talk about this. Talking stuff out is better then trying to figure stuff on your own, because we can just guess.
2007-01-11 06:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its looks like he had feelings for and that night when you guys were fooling around he probably thoughtthat you would feel the same. But when he saw you with with another guy it hurt. I think its best that you talk to him and let him know how you feel about how the relationship and everything else. Let him know that you never meant to hurt him and you wanna work things out. But before you do make sure what your feelings are towards him..
2007-01-11 07:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by NENA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the begining love was good but at the end, it is bitter. I just want to be breif about this situation. Ask him if both of u will agree to go for counselling on this new changes. If not try this out. Freshen up, dress differently in a way that will make u look sexy, then go out with ur mates, he will soon realise wat he is missing. Good luck
2007-01-11 06:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by jerry b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
even though it was only a one night thing, it seems that he had deep feelings for you. maybe he was hurt alot by what happened, but i think, if you care about him in any way, you must break the friendship off with him. i think your stopping him from moving on by trying to keep in contact with a friend that doesn't exist anymore in the way you have always thought of him.
2007-01-11 06:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by joanne f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will get over it in time. But unfortunately you are going to need to distance yourself from him. He needs to be independent of the memories he still has of you. He's bitter and rejected, but the less he sees you, the less it will hurt him. Then he'll get over it. If I were you, I'd write him a letter to explain your feelings, and to tell him how great he is and that you wanthim to be happy. Then let him get on with his life. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIM. Just let him figure it out.
2007-01-11 06:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mingu 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes,without a doubt,if you've been hurt by something in the past you're not going to open yourself up for it again, i think you should ignore his behavior and try to stay friends with him,if you question him about it, he may think you are interested in him other than being friends,leave him to it...he'll get over it.
2007-01-11 06:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by 1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u hurt some one very badly u can change the person completely. make him better or worse.
2007-01-15 01:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by riccardo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...and i think you shouldnt have settled down with another guy...i think that ruined it right there...you should try to talk to him...and if you csnt then there is a problem bc if you were making out at one point in life then wats it gunna hurt to try to talk to him?
2007-01-11 06:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ohio State~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, for better or worse. Just wait until you felt the same thing.
2007-01-11 06:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by Opas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋