Do I stop talking to him?

Question

well i have a boyfriend who says im not allowed talking to my ex at all or emailing him or anything...i understannd where my boyfriend comes from on that because if a gurl was mailing him 5 times a day id be mad too....but i promised my boyfriend nothing is going on between me and my ex...and we are just friends and everything...nothing more....but he still says not to talk to him and if i do he'll dump me...should i still try to talk to my ex anyways?? i dont think its fair or right for my boyfriend to tell me who i can and cant talk to...i mean JUST friends....the reason me and my ex broke up was because of the boyfriend i have now...so my boyfriend should be proud shouldnt he?? so should i talk to my ex as a friend or not? i dont want more than friends and neither does my ex but we both dont think its fair to have to stop talking completely...my boyfriend now said he dont trust me and he doubts me...but loves me? so should i still talk to my ex?

Answer 1

You're absolutely right, he has no right to tell you who you can and cannot talk to. He should trust you enough to believe you when you say nothing is going on between you two. However, to show him that you understand where he is coming from, I would maybe talk to your ex less than you are now. Are you really e-mailing him 5 times a day?? That does look suspicious. But anyways, keep reassuring your bf that nothing is going on, but he needs to respect you enough to let you talk to whoever you please.

Good luck
~A fellow Buckeye~

Answer 2

You do what you feel is right for you and be willing to accept the consequences of your decision. I will only make mention though in fairness to your new boyfriend that you did say you would be mad if he received emails from another girl , how would you feel about him talking with an ex- girlfriend? I'll put that aside now and just say that if you are young perhaps your not ready for a deep commitment with one boy now , is that possible? You have a choice of just being good friends and dating whom ever you should choose too if you don't commit your self to one relationship to that degree.
Your boyfriend may feel you may leave him for someone else as you did your first boyfriend , perhaps he feels there is a chance you and your first boyfriend will get back together. He's feeling pretty insecure about your relationship and that if you talk to your ex boyfriend he will lose you . You have a mind of your own and should be wary of people who try to control you as well as trying to treat others as you wish to be treated also . Sometimes this can be a delicate balance and lead to unwanted situations . My advice is to relax and don't be so committed as to call them your exclusive boyfriends until you really feel that way perhaps at a later age. For now just enjoy one anothers company whom ever your with and have fun . Think of them all as just really good friends. Good luck on this !

Answer 3

Ok sweetie. You b/f is obvioulsy very controlling. NOONE has a right to tell you whom you can and cannot talk to. Do not let him control you. If he insists on controlling you in this way, then he is NOT a good man, for you or anyone else. Trust me, I was married to a guy like this and it was horrible. Lifes too short. Dump him and find someone who will treat you with respect.

Answer 4

It comes down to how much your "I am woman hear me roar" outlook really affects you. If you really can't stand the idea of him telling you what and what not to do, then do what you want and lose him. If you don't want to lose him, I would suggest not talking to your ex. Relationships take compromise. Put yourself in his shoes, if it was him emailing HIS ex all day, back and forth, and talking to her, you probably wouldn't care for it all that much either and would have wishes of him to discontinue contact. You have to do what makes you happy, and if being with your current boyfriend makes you happy, you have to do things that keep him happy or you'll lose him.

Good luck. Follow your heart.

Answer 5

oh my goodness, to much drama-
do what you want to do- if you want to be friends w/ your ex then be friends- just dont rub it in your current boyfriends face ya know? what he doesnt know wont hurt him, he should trust you though unless you have givin him a reason not to- but if he super jealous like this then i really dont see the relationship lasting a long time- good luck

Answer 6

flip it around. your bf is talking to a girl all day long. whenever you see him at school they are together chatting and laughing. when you go home you see that they are e-mailing and IMing each other.
How do you feel? Does it feel like he's cheating on you? That's how he feels right now.

I am not saying who is right or who is wrong. Obviously your bf trusts you less than he "should", but in his eyes you are giving him reason to trust you less.

Answer 7

ok... like you said if he had a girl messaging him every minute you wouldnt like it either. decide who you want the relationship with. because its not that he doesnt trust you. he prolly doesnt trust that guy. if you like your bf and want to remain with him stop talking to the ex. HE IS AN EX FOR A REASON!!

Answer 8

Yes, you should still talk to the ex. Nobody but your parents should be making the rules for you to follow.

Answer 9

Unless you want your ex more then your boyfriend You should stop talking to him.

Answer 10

People who ask questions like this don't deserve boyfriends/girlfriends, and your [current] boyfriend deserves better. Like another poster asked, who's the relationship with anyway?