...a girl had sex with you on a first date, after spending pretty much the whole night talking and just laying in silence cuddling...Do you feel like you have already seen all of her and would not date her again; Would you call her again if you liked her? What would this tell you about a girl even after you guys clicked and seemed to have a lot of fun?
2007-01-11 06:04:10 · 17 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to be honest with you so don't take this the wrong way. The fact that you slept with him on the FIRST date was not a smart move just because you two "clicked" does not mean its OK to have sex on the first date. I know it is hard when your wanting it sooo bad but you need to show him that you respect yourself and he should too. I don't know if he will see you again but if he does he will only be expecting sex because you opened that door, now he is taking advantage of you and will probably think of you less. And maybe want nothing more from you then to have sex. If by some chance he wants and actually relationship with you if that is what you want to then I would say work on your friendship and have a good time with out sex for awhile. So if he calls be honest with him ask him where things might be going and what he wants. If all he wants is sex and you do too then have fun and be safe, just be aware the "only" having sex with him will hurt you in the long run since you are sharing converstion and seem to have some kind of feelings toward him.Good luck to you
2007-01-11 06:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters, it doesn't matter if you spend the whole night talking and cuddling.
and it doesn't matter if YOU think you clicked...
guys can talk and cuddle all day and still not care about the girl at all.
That being said, if he likes you, it doesn't matter if you put out on the first date...and there's no way you can "see all of someone" on the first date
physically or mentally
good luck though
2007-01-11 14:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to like my answer. You cannot establish a relationship in one night of talking and cuddling. You, my friend, just had recreational sex. Meaningless, sex. If this dude cares about you then here is how you can tell.... see if he can take you out or hang out with you with out the sex. I bet he has his hooks on you ten minutes after your together. You need to watch this guy really close. I think he is using your body. I hope I am wrong. I'm not though.
2007-01-11 14:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by BudLt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say I seen all of her so to speak but I wouldn't "DATE" her exclusively.
I would call her again and hope to keep a friends with benefits relationship.
No matter how well we clicked I would still be bothered by the fact that she gave it up on night one.....I would wonder how many other times she "clicked" with somone before me.
Just how I see it, I am sure there are plenty of people who would still persue a realationship.
2007-01-11 14:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by RedEye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this never happened to me, but if it did, I would still want to know more about the girl to see if we were truly compatible, even if the sex was mind-blowing. Sex isn't everything in a relationship, even if it is the most fun two people can have off their feet. I would date her again, and yes, I would call her.
2007-01-11 14:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I liked her I would call her again but part of me would think she was kinda slutty for sleeping with me on the first date...I mean its kinda like a test for guys, If you sleep with them really fast then your not the kinda girl we would really wanna start a relationship with you because who knows how many other people she slept with on the first date. Its crazy. We respect women who make us wait. But we love to hook up.
2007-01-11 14:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as i'am concerned, any woman that ***** on the fists date is somewhat a whore. Is it attention craving issues, do you do it to feel better about yourself? I would call her again though, but be wondering how many times she has done that before!
2007-01-11 14:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by dwntwnbadboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately call her if I liked her. To me she would be a person with an uninhibited personality and a good healthy sex drive. Nothing wrong with that in my book.
2007-01-11 14:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, but most men have already got what they wanted and will move-on, unless they want more.
not a good way to build a relationship
2007-01-11 14:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by bl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was good in bed and made all the right moves ...I would probably keep her around for a steady piece...
2007-01-11 14:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋