I wanted to wait until we get married but she keeps pressuring me.I Love this woman. A few time, things got so hot, I almost gave in but when I said I was going to get the condoms It completely turned her off. She doesn't want to use one and I don't want to get her pregnant. She is a couple of years from turning 40 and thinks she is getting to the point where she wont be able to have a baby (We both want to have kids). But its to early in our relationship to get married. What can I do to convince her that I don't want us to get pregnant and to use some time of contraceptive?
2007-01-11 06:02:24 · 15 answers · asked by Curiously 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Insist on it. She can most certainly get pregant at 38. Many women still have babies well into their 40s. Don't back down on this...it sounds like she's trying to trap you. She should be on some form of birth control herself, but with her attitude I wouldn't trust her to take it properly.
Also, if she has no kids yet, the risk of birth defects for first babies of women 40 and up skyrockets. This is something else the two of you should look into if at some point you do consider having a child together.
In the meantime, wrap yer johnson!
2007-01-11 06:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stupid question, yet have the two one among you taken a intercourse ed classification? If no longer, you ought to. in view that she desires to have unprotected intercourse, is she employing some form of start administration, pill, IUD, different? If no longer, then your straying down an exceedingly risky direction as being pregnant has very, useful odds. Did she inform you why she desires to have unprotected intercourse? Is there a reason? i wish its no longer some loopy excuse for "greater effective intimacy" because of the fact that's c.rap. She ought to have a sprint one, yet at 15, it relatively is a existence changer which you will't turn returned from.
2016-10-07 00:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be honest and speak up. Communication is very important in a relationship and if you're thinking about not getting her pregnant and about marriage it's important that you talk about it. If you both can't wait, insist using a condom. Make it clear and I am sure she will respect your wishes. Good LUCK.
2007-01-11 19:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by ilovejesus 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her about it, you can always pull out but that doesn't always work, if she loves you too than she should be able to respect that you don't wont to get her pregnant right now and also that you want to wait until you're married don't let anyone pressure you into doing somehing you are uncomfortable with
2007-01-11 06:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by IisIam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about a cat in heat...
I think that's why she doesn't want you to use "protection" because maybe she is trying to get pregnant. I admire you for being respectful and wanting to wait until your marriage. Most men won't even fathom of waiting or respecting a woman who thinks as you!! Think she's the right one for you? She obviously doesn't want you to respect her or your wish to wait...give her azz da boot!
2007-01-11 06:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO THIS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!
Send her to the doctor for birth control if she refuses to allow you to use a condom.
If she refuses both options...find a new girlfriend before you find yourself trapped when she gets pregnant. You'll regret it the rest of your life.
2007-01-11 06:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by nova30180 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is always a danger in having unprotected sex... I personally wouldn't, and if my partner had an issue with it, then we go our separate ways. Your health and welfare is definitely more important than an hour of pleasure.
2007-01-11 06:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by angelonthesun 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she clearly feels her biological clock ticking, and wants to get pregnant. If you aren't ready to be a father, you need to tell her so. If she can't respect that, you need to find another woman.
2007-01-11 06:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jack C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk with her about it. if she still refuses than get to stepping. if she has any respect for you and the longevity of your relationship she should be albe to respect your wishes about protection. if you don't have to worry about the STD thing there are several other forms of contraceptive..
2007-01-11 06:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is saying that to you, how many other guys do you think have been in the same situation? I have known girls that say "we don't need to use a condom" and they tend to be a resident of ho-town.
2007-01-11 06:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋