im 42, i met a woman ,44. we are both married. three months we have known each other, either of us hacve had comfortable marriages. we fell in love, madly. we mde each other feel like nobody ever has before, i caould tell it in hey voice, in her eyes, as she could mine. her hubby found out two months ago, said it had to stop. within days, she called, said she couldnt live without me. we continued. last week, she even bought mer a ticket to go to a conference with her where we were together for the first time. tears were plentiful. secind day, her hubby called, said he knew i wa there. she said she couldnt handle it for now, asked me to leave . got back, she has said she can never leave her hubby, even if it means she wont be as hapopy as she would be with me. should i hold on or should i go
2007-01-11 05:59:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suggest marriage councelling. your marriage might not be what it once was, but you stepped out of it. a trained therapist can help you figure out what you want.
2007-01-11 06:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is not always greener on the other side. You need to sit down and think about what your current wife means to you. Three month's of knowing someone is not enough time to really know someone, especially if most of that time might have been spent in bed. Also, do you have children? I'm not saying that you should stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children but rather just take them into consideration in your decision. However, is your marriage unhappy? Maybe you should give your wife a chance and spend your energy on her. You were obviously in love with her at one time, see if that love is still alive.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-11 14:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mary R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off. You are cheating on your wife as well. Everything looks better from the outside lookin in. If she says she isnt going to leave her husband, you dont stand a chance. Sorry
2007-01-11 14:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,if she hasn't left him yet then she more likely isn't. Ask yourself this question. Do you want to be kept a secret when out in public? Are you ready to be one the side for an indefinite time?
Move one, it will save alot more pain in the future.
2007-01-11 14:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard situation, but I would ask her one more time, and if she still says that she can't divorce him, then I would definetly move on. Even though you know it is going to be painful. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 14:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd probably go if she's said she's not leaving her husband then the answer's pretty clear she just's want's a fling
2007-01-11 14:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by pumpkinbugaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wont leave her husband,,go.
2007-01-11 14:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your wife and keep it in your pants
2007-01-11 14:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude.. let her go on.
2007-01-11 14:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋