How do i get over the pain, without leaving her. I don't know what else to do when all i feel is pain even after i thought i was healed enough to deal with things. Guess i was wrong. So any hints or tips on how to deal, all without leaving her, would be a great help.
2007-01-11 05:49:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Out of sight, out of mind is the best remedy. What sucks is that the person that can heal and hurt you is the same person. You developed feelings. The more you developed, the more it will hurt. Its ok to feel like this. You are actually healing. Being away from the situation will allow you to see her for what she really is to you. Once your brain catches up with your heart. You will know.
2007-01-11 05:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. It's an excellent remedy for irremoveable pains. Time heals every wound. Even the death of a dear one can not keep us suppressed for a long time. Human mind is designed to get over any trauma. So let the time do its job.
But for your immediate relief, I will say, friendship is the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love. You will find one such friendship very soon, especially if you consider your own 'best friend' who broke your heart !
2007-01-11 14:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cyphor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid there really isn't no way to get over it without leaving her. Because everytime you see her, you are going to think about the pain you feel for her. The only thing to do is to get on with your life and find someone who will not break your the way she did. Good luck on this.
2007-01-11 13:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will have to let her know what it is that has hurt u, be it betrayal or infidelity, or whatever. u will have to confront her, and she will have to acknowledge she hurt u, and show remorse, if u are ever to get over the hurt. u still have pain because she has not been remorseful, and does not want to be accountable for it. if u don't want to leave u are going to have to forgive her, without conditions if she isn't willing to be sorry.forgiving her does not mean she is off the hook or it never happened, it only sets u free from the pain of whatever happened in your relationship.
2007-01-11 13:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know why you can't think of anything other than leaving her? Because that's the only answer.
Dating friends is a bad idea for this very reason.
Move on and lesson learned.
2007-01-11 13:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal is to talk to her about it. Tell her all of your feelings. Get it all out. Listen to what she has to say too. Then, maybe you can move on or make up. Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-11 13:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people will treat you bad. What's important is that you don't let it ruin your mind. Spend your time doing good things. If you don't have a friend, play guitar. That way, when the friends come into your life, you can play guitar for them!
2007-01-11 14:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by Chris P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her what ur feeling and ask what she is feeling and u might need to leave her but dont worry u'll find some 1 else.
2007-01-11 13:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♥PopLock&DropIt♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say- time and distance is the only thing that will help.
create some real space- no contact- for about a year.
2007-01-11 13:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"well i think you need to talk to her and let her know how you feel, you need to know that she wont betray you again. I think she needs to earn your trust back. "
im qouting another comment that someone said because i think thats what you should do
good luck man good luck
2007-01-11 13:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by delux191jnz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋