I took my boyfriend to his recruiting office yesterday, so he could leave for boot camp for the Army. I have been fortunate enough to have him with me almost 24/7 for the past few months because of problems with his family. I have been able to have my best friend with me at all times, and i am missing him like crazy. I dont know how to handle my emotions about his leaving. I wont see him for at least 9 weeks..maybe even 18 weeks. I dont know how to handle not being able to talk to him. He is my hero, and i love him with all my heart. Does anyone have any advice? ANY is helpful.
2007-01-11 05:47:40 · 8 answers · asked by AliceA. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I was in basic training, back with Abe Lincoln, many of the young men had serious relationships going when they came in, and most of them rec'd "dear John" letters during their training or soon after.
Chances are that you will meet somebody else before your bf gets out of boot.
2007-01-11 05:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He'll get to call you once he's there ( maybe after a few days or so ) ... unless he f*cks up all the time .. then you get your phone privileges taken away ... write to him as much as possible ... it was so nice to get any type of mail during boot camp ... you feel lonely - and question yourself a lot if you did the right thing ... understand what he's going through right now ... he has drill sergeants up his yin yang 24/7 ... the food sucks ... the barracks suck ... the people really suck ... I know it must suck for you to be home alone and worried about him ... 9 - 18 weeks will fly by and he'll be home visiting soon ...
During his time away ... try finding some girl-friends to hang out with ... stay busy ... get a job ... in your letters just write to him about how much you miss him and can't wait to see him again ... don't write about - who your going out with ... what you did for the weekend ... etc ... send photos, letters ... care packages ... whatever it is he wants ... send ... it really does show him how much you care ... when your stuck in boot camp ... it feels like you're not going anywhere and everyone you left behind is moving on without you ... it's very strange ... oh yeah and if you don't get married before he leaves for his first duty station ... he'll be gone for a lot longer than 9-18 weeks ... try a few years ... so really think about how much you love him .. will wait for him .. etc ... being in the Army and having a long distance relationship ... is filled with nothing but lies and drama ... I know first hand since I saw it happening for 4 yrs ... !
2007-01-11 06:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the army myself. There is no easy answer. he is having a tougher time then you believe me. The best thing you can do is to write him everyday, if he loves you he will find time to do the same. Nothing get's a man thru hard times in the military than a letter to let him know someone loves him. The letters you recieve from him will help chear you up also.
Try and find a hobby or work overtime you need to keep your mind occupied. Bootcamp is only the beginning and it get's worse. The chances of him being sent off to a foreign country are high and if he goes to iraqi he will be gone for at least a year and a half.
Ask yourself one question is he worth the wait if not let him go don't drag it out the divorce rate in the military is the highest of any job. good luck
2007-01-11 05:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not do what the guy above me stated. They get in trouble in case you deliver him perfumy letters, and also do not deliver him a image of your self till you pick all or the recruits to work out you. do not positioned some thing on the exterior of the envelope except his and your cope with. do not deliver him cookies both. basically basically are literally not making him get any un wanted interest, reason they do punish them for that. My bf is likewise in USMC boot camp as we communicate. it isn't hassle-free yet my bf sends me letters fairly a lot daily. after I first were given his letter i began writing to him straight away. He requested me to thrill write to him ordinary reason i wager he's depressing and he needs help. So commence writing ASAP reason I already go a letter asking how come im no longer writing lower back. It takes awhile for them to get your mail so commence early once you get his cope with. he will omit you im particular. in spite of the undeniable fact that the letters advise each little thing! stay busy even as he's lengthy gone and keep in contact consisting of his kinfolk. he will like that. keep the letters helpful. keep him influenced. And basically wait till he graduates. it will be so large to ultimately see him! :) Oh and that i have in consumer-friendly words considered helpful ameliorations in my bf so a techniques, he's gaining understanding of and growing more effective mature, i'll already tell. So it wont change him for the worst, thats what i become petrified of.
2016-12-29 03:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly do love him, do your best to to keep true to him. When I was in the Marines, I had to help clean the squad bay after on guy got a dear john letter and blew his brains out. It's not a pretty sight and it's even more of a mess to clean up.
Keep true to him, it's only a few weeks and absence makes the heart grow fonder (if you don't screw it up and go out on him).
2007-01-11 06:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him everyday...regardless of whene he gets the chance to scribble out a quick note
find things to do to keep you busy...and NOT another guy. just hang out with friends and whanot.
do not sit around and mope (this will only make it worse and longer for you)
stay positive. esp with him b/c there is a good chance he's having a crappy day and could use you to raise his cheer up a bit.
i can tell you that the world is not ending. it sucks..a lot, but it will be okay. trust me, i've been through basic/ait, plenty of ftx's and two deployments.. it'll be alright.
there are lots of websites available to military spouses/girlfriends and whatnot with people going through the same ****.
2007-01-11 05:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch with him...that all you can do for now. Give him all your support and tell him thet you're proud of him and what he's doing. Tell him to stay strong and be tough...Basic Training isn't easy for him and he needs all the support he can get to make it. YOu sound like an amazing GF and you both need to stay strong for each other...he'll be fine...just load up on stamps, paper and envelopes!
2007-01-11 06:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy_Goosy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write to him everyday. I know when I was in basic I love getting letters, and you will feel closer to him that way. he will be finished before you know it, and will be in AIT.
2007-01-11 05:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋