My man was married for 25 years to a woman who was neglectful of his emotional and physical needs....?

Question

I love him and I want to meet his needs. I try my best. He hardly meets mine though. He says it is because he is not used to a woman who wants the attention. How patient should I be with him. I want and need attention too. This is not a big enough problem to break up but it does leave me feeling alone a lot.

Answer 1

express to him how you feel and you must be patient and willing to help him to meet your needs. With time he will be a gr8 man for you. Just give him some time.

Answer 2

Communication is key to any relationship. I think maybe you need to remind him consistently that you first of all are not his ex wife, secondly that you have needs as well. Let him know what you expect, and give him a chance to make the changes necessary for you to have what you want. If he is still resistant, and doesn't show any indication of changing slightly, then maybe instead of you being stuck with someone for the next 25 years in a neglectful relationship you really need to consider looking else where.

Answer 3

You will break up eventually. After you figure out your physical needs,
You won't know who the person you're with is emotionally. You both shouldn't have been intimate. You need time in a relationship to get to know each other first. Had you of done this, maybe then you would have found a way to either move on in the relationship or break it off.

Answer 4

Are you trying to play therapist and makeup for 25 years of a bad marriage? If so, you're wasting your time. Why stay with a man who doesn't meet your needs? You're putting yourself in the same situation he suffered for 25 years.
His wife was neglectful of his needs, and then you say "He hardly meets mine"
What bigger problem do you need to smarten up and walk away?

Answer 5

he is comfortable in his ways and probably not about to change them as he at least tries to explain them away. You on the other hand need to look at this , because if your needs are not met you might become resentful and angry, ignoring some one is the best way to hurt them. and you might be in for a lot of pain, at least you understand this up front, and there will be no one to blame

Answer 6

i applaude your efforts to meet his needs. but, i bet you do it because you want to...not because you are used to doing so. thus, the same thing should be apply with him. there is NO getting used to giving someone attention. you WANT to...particularly if your needs are being met. my ex gave me nothing in these regards, she was selfish and self-absorbed, and i gave nothing in return. my current girlfriend gives me all in need,and i naturally, without thought, give her what she needs in return, i make that effort without being reminded or asked or begged. i chose to and i want to. its a do or don't situation. he is chosing not to...it nothing to do with getting used to doing so, it should natural, and effortless. he is not appreciating a good thing, and is essentially taking advantage of it, and you. no patience is needed here. immediate change is needed.

Answer 7

Explain to him that your needs are just as important as his. And if things do not change, you will have to start dating someone who is willing to take your needs into consideration too..

Answer 8

Hello
Just be your self.

it will work it's self out naturally

be brave

Kind regards

Answer 9

you need a man who is going to treat you like a princess. You should move on.

Answer 10

please who doesn't need attention, it is not an excuse that her ex didn't meet his needs...if now u don't fix this it will come up later when it is too late...