I let my son live with his dad and he wants to come back. I lost the court hearing.We are devistated. any help

Question

I let my son live with his Dad when he was 8 because he was starting fires and having a hard time adjusting to my divorce.I needed his help.His father made me agree to let him stay with him until he was 12.Thomas is now 13 and he wants to come back here for half the time.He is doing great and grew out of his experiment stage.His dad will not let him come back.I went to court and lost the case.My son even testified.The judge believed lies and my Lawyer was no help.The judge actually gave Tim (Thomas's dad) and his wife more authority over Thomas and I lost time with my son.I have 2 other children that are doing great.I work hard as a single mom to make sure of that.I was portrayed as irrisponsible,ignorent,and incapable of making proper choices for Thomas.Tims wife has taken over as Tom's mom and I am left out.They will absolutly not communicate at any level with me and I am so Mad.Tom hates her.He wants me to call the cops on her.He wants me to ask dad to stick up for himself and him.

Answer 1

You need to talk with your ex alone without the wife and see what terms you can come up with she is not his mom and she should not be involved in whether you see your child or not Tell your son everything will be okay. when he turns 14 he can go back in front of the judge and tell the judge that he doesn't want to stay with his father and have him state why he is unhappy there. In cases when the child has turned 14 they have more say about what happens to them than when they are under 14.

Answer 2

Does the court findings state that you can see your son on certain days and times? If so, and they are not following that, you can take them to court for not following the agreement.

At least he is not brainwashed into thinking you are horrible. When he is 18 he can get out of there asap where you can wait with open arms to welcome him!