I've been out of the dating scene for quite a while and was wondering what I should do. We are going on a double date, movies and dinner, so should we go Dutch or he pay for one and I the other or what? I just want to know what I should expect.
2007-01-11 05:32:15 · 24 answers · asked by motleycfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really can't assume these days. Not everyone feels the same on this issue, as you can see.
I would suggest that you ask him casually if it's an expensive restaurant so you can get some cash before going. If he says, "don't bother", then you know he plans on paying. So, this way you are offering to pay, but avoid having to deal with it at the table, which can be awkward.
Then, if you decide to go out again, let him know (if it is true) that you really don't mind sharing in paying for your date(s). That will give him the opportunity to tell you how he feels, if you don't already know by then.
2007-01-11 06:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the guy, if he is old fashioned he will insist that he pays for everything. If you have gone out with him before you should have some indication as to how he feels about this subject. The guy I am seeing usually pays for everything because he knows he is in better financial shape than I am. Still I feel guilty and would like to pitch in. He tells me I am just getting back on my feet so I try to accept that and do what I can, when I can. There are always other ways to show your interesting in sharing the responsibility. For instance, make him dinner and rent some movies. Good luck to you.
2007-01-11 13:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by lost angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u let him pay for hte dinner and then u should try to pay for hte movie tickets (of course the other couple will pay for all their stuff). He probably wont let you buy the tix, but it is worth putting it out there. If he does let u pay for the tix that is the sign of a lame guiy. First date, guy should pay for it all, but I personally am of the breed that the female should at least offer to pay for part of it, even if on the first date. Later dates, I say go dutch but first one man pays
2007-01-11 13:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different, but for me, it's nice if one person pays...either one! Then the next time, the other can pay the whole bill. It works out in the end, and there's no ugliness of who ordered what, etc. On a double date, maybe just split the bill in half between the couples.
2007-01-11 13:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Savvy Sue 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually whoever is asking is the one expected to pay. This does not always hold true though, so even if he is asking bring your wallet along. Double dates are trickier. A simple discussion ahead of time will avoid embarrassment and hurt feelings. Also remember that it is okay for you to ask out as well, but be prepared to pay.
2007-01-11 13:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lorrie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the new generation and they have their own ways but I'm just an old school kind of guy and I think the guy should pay for everything, always have.
As for what you should expect, take money with you and hope the guy is an old fashioned guy and pays for it all. This way you don't have to worry and at best you can go home with the same amount of money you left with.
2007-01-11 13:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A true man will accept nothing from you on the date dutch is for the male that is cheap and stingy .. when a man asks the women on a date they should by all rights pay the whole thing to be a true gentlemen . but thats my opinion
2007-01-11 13:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by cliff_aka_colt_4_5 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In the old days :)
the Man used to pay for everything at least for a couple of dates
today I rekon it's best just to negotiate between the two of you.
good luck
Kind regards
2007-01-11 13:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Police Artist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can offer to pay for the movie, if he pays for the dinner.
2007-01-11 13:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could let him pay for dinner, then as a courtesy, offer to pay for the movie and snacks. If he accepts the offer, great. If not, that's Ok too.....at least you offered.
2007-01-11 13:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋