How do you keep calm with your teenager.?

Question

Any good ideas to get round a teenager . I feel I am always arguing back everyday. Its geting me down.

Answer 1

If you're just arguing - you're lucky! When my twin boys were about fifteen I thought I was going round the bend sometimes. I remember chasing them round the house with a wooden spoon, absolutely out of my mind with rage! On occasion I even rang my husband at work to deal with it! Teenagers are experimenting with the power they feel as they grow older - that's all it is - and they are often more confused than the parents about their behaviour. It takes a lot of patience and we're not saints so we blow up! That's ok! My mother told me just to keep on at them, they see it as nagging, but some of it will sink in and they'll turn out ok...and that's what happened. I think kids instinctively know when our rage, nagging etc., stems from real love and anxiety about their welfare and not just our letting off steam at them. Tell them you nag and shout because you want them to be the best people they can be. You want to all get along together. Sometimes it feels like you've lost them, but just grit your teeth, don't give up and you'll all come out of it ok. It happens in most families and is just a part of life - it doesn't last forever!

Answer 2

I have a teenager and sometimes you have to give them a little space. Not saying let them run all over you but right now they are going through phase of finding themselves. In the long run it will bring you closer. Kids are always testing us to see how far they can go. If ur child is not doing illegal activity and just acting like a basic teenager put urself in their shoes. How were u at that age?Try to stop arguing, talk because with both of u arguing no one is listening.

Answer 3

When it starts to get heated (don't you dare be the first to raise your voice) take a deep breath speak slowly, softly but softly. Say to him or her, "The situation appears a bit tense right now, I am not going to continue this conversation until you/I (depends on who is heated) have calm down".

If its you tell them you will come back to them when you feel calmer. If its them tell them to feel free to come back to you when they feel calmer. Try and do the following;

1. Stress the need to discuss and not argue.
2. Acknowledge any part they feel you play in it (if they may have the even slightest point).
3. Ask them what they suggest you could do to meet them half way.

In war there are never any winners. Remember some wars are just not worth fighting, look at Iraq! What's the point of waging, capturing and defeating only to alienate? If you love them enough you don't have to prove that you're stronger, just sensible.

Good luck

Answer 4

I raised 2 teenage girls, the best advice is to pick your battles. Whats more important? For example their messy rooms were driving me nuts! I decided as long as nothing started to "crawl" out of there, I would just keep the door closed! All in all, it is less stress to decide what "battles" are more important than others. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I'm struggling myself with two teenager girls. With my students I don't take it yet I find myself arguing with my own. I constantly tell them this is not a democracy and I'm not negotiating. But I also know that if I don't get this together I'm going to push them away.

I'm trying to be clear with the rule/boundaries and I'm also trying to use less words and give them the look I give my students when they are misbehaving.

good luck!

Answer 6

don´t waste your time arguing, been there done that the best way is to leave little notes for them . If you want them to do something like there bedroom needs cleaning or the time they have to home or anything really just write it down . they will respond I found this the best way for me of course they will say what´s with the notes , then just tell them your fed up of arguing and it´s the only way to communicate

Answer 7

i have two teens and i find it really easy to get on with them when they get really angry which aint too often i just ask them to have some time out and go in their rooms which works well.give them some rules and make them stick too it if they don't try stopping their pocket money they will soon come around your the boss and you should make them know this or they will run rings round you . good luck.

Answer 8

Sounds extraordinary, yet attempt grabbing a blanket or blouse of hers and kinda use it as your burp textile once you lay the toddler on it at the same time as he's drifting off. Her smell would soothe her. also attempt making a song a song she continually sings, or perchance ask her to hearken to the radio at the same time as she is with him, so that you would possibly want to do the same and it is going to soothe him. be sure you're burping the toddler for the period of and after bottle-feeding. gas is a huge reason behind discomfort (crying) for babies. If he's gassy, attempt cycling his legs at the same time as he's laying beside you or on your lap. gently, obviously. stumble on a favourite toy of his, and save it interior sight. grab a pacifier if he's taking one. you receives to entice close him by the years. dangle in there!

Answer 9

say what you have to say calmly. listen to what they want to say if anything. go in to another room and hit yourself over the head repeatedly with a bat. there is nothing else to do because until are teens turn 21 we dont even speak the same language. sorry i cant be of more help.

Answer 10

I used to take a deep breath and think in my head ' one day they will understand when their children are doing the same'. guess what ?- as adults they are coming to me to ask for advice as to how to deal with their teenagers and asking me how i stayed calm.