been with him for three years. the relationship i thought had its ups and downs and we've fought and threatened to break up before but we always patched things up and made up. but today he was very adamant about the break up. i feel so depressed that i don't know what to do. and i can't believe that it is actually happening. i'm in so much pain and i don't know what to do because i don't want us to break up.
2007-01-11 05:31:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
call his bluff and move out get mad! screw him ! hell want you back with in a week
2007-01-11 05:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you've had ups and downs, fought and threatened to break up over the last 3 years, why would this be such a shock? I mean, how long did you expect this nonsense to continue? It's not how normal, loving couples conduct themselves in a relationship- it's totally dysfunctional. If you didn't want to break up, the fighting and threats would have stopped long ago. You need to learn how to NOT fight and threaten so your next relationship will be more secure and mature.
2007-01-11 13:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sometimes there comes a time when there is no way that you can patch things up, try and talk to him, and if he keeps telling you its over im afraid it just may be, possibly you could do with some time apart to sort both your minds and hopefully patch things up.
I know from personal experience that sometimes it just does not work out, i left my fiance 3 years ago because we were very unhappy, and now i am with a man who is so fantastic, so maybe it will work out for th best.
If you have been having problems for a while it may be that he has just had enough, you could both be better off away from all the hurt.
2007-01-11 13:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take some deep breaths, talk to close friends or family about everything so you are clear about what you want to say to him, get as good a night's sleep as you can, choose a time when there are few distractions and talk to him. Tell him that you want to know why this time is different, that you want the relationship to work, that if he tells you the problem you are prepared to work on it... basically, do what you can to save the relationship if that's what you want.
If this works, great, keep working on your relationship. If it doesn't work, at least you'll know you did everything you could to save the relationship, and this will help you move on.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 15:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and move on. You said yourself that you agrued a lot and threatened to break up on several occassions. Maybe he's tired of going through those changes.
2007-01-11 13:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds dysfunctional in the first place. Just get out, it might be better for the both of you.
2007-01-11 13:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jules Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. He said he wants it so you have to respect that. Did you move too fast? When did you move in? You might have rushed that and he wasn't ready. You don't have a choice, move out. Don't be with someone that doesn't want you.
2007-01-11 13:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do...
if he is adamant, then you should just go. it sucks, but dragging it out will only make it worse.
2007-01-11 13:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by bjohnson808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve answers don't leave till u get them.
2007-01-11 13:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by Roxley x 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be stong! pick your head up and move out.....he will soon realize what he lost!
2007-01-11 13:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋