not from a dating sense but just being curious. I truly look like a different guy. was 270 now 220 at 6'3" with 15 more to go. I've done a lot of it through cardio so I am getting fit too. I think she knows I've been on this program and I've been thinking by this time she would have made it a point to check in....but really nothing. I have not done this for her, but for my health. I know it's not all about me so please no comments like that. I know inside is more important blah blah...lol. but still, physically she'd be dating a different guy. isn't that at lest a LITTLE compelling? Why did she dump me? as George Straint croons..."I didn't tell her, each day I loved her. I took her for granted" Too damn busy with work and all that stuff. I used to tell her that before she met me I was an in-shape guy. now I can show her but if she doesn't care....why bother? please no "move on dude" comments. 2 months have passed since the send off, and she hasn't seen me in 4 mos.
2007-01-11 05:27:27 · 6 answers · asked by keepingitgoing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer to your question depends on why she dumped you in the first place. Did she not give you any reason? Were you not paying attention to what she said?
We can't reasonably answer your question without better information, except to say this: if she didn't break up with you in the first place because of your weight, then having changed/improved that will probably not make a difference.
2007-01-11 05:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point may be that you once took her for granted. That has nothing to do with loosing wieght. I think it's great that you're loosing wieght and getting healthy and that you're doing it for yourself however I doubt that the reason she left you was because you were heavy. It sounds more like there were other things going on in the relationship. Maybe you need to work on some other things too. Also, why are you waiting for her to contact you? She might think that you're too busy with work. Why don't you take some initiative and contact her to tell her how you feel. Swallow your pride and see how she reacts. Keep in mind that bad things can happen when we try, but I believe worse things happen to our souls when we don't. If you don't try, you will never know.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-11 13:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mary R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrads on the weight loss. I understand where your coming from.
My ex-spouse's Ex-wife left him because he was overweight and didn't lose any weight. He met me a year later and had a gastric bypass in 2002, two years after meeting me. I feel in love with him when he was overweight (496 Lbs.) for who he was. Helped him from the begin being supportive. Helped transformed him to who he is now (250 lbs) but he changed. He started thinking he is God's gift to women. Had an affair which I forgave him for and took him back. Two months ago we seperated again because he kept checking out other women when we were together anywhere even flirted with the cashiers when we were paying for something. Started dating another slut from his work and I left. Know he wants me to take him back cuz his broke, even though he has two jobs, and I am engaged to my bestfriend who helped me through all the pain. His can't stand losing me now and he thinks the weight loss is responsible for his actions.He doesn't want to see his ex-wife cuz his still loves her but wants to show her who he is now. That is fine, we get hurt and wish to show the person who hurt us that we are better now.
If I were her, I would be curious about how you look but problaby that was not the reason I dumped you. If it was the reason, rejoice she that she dumped you. Why in the world would you want a superficial person like that. You deserve better.
Personally, I hope you will not become as vain as my ex-spouse but get it out of your system...Find out where she hangs out and accidently run into her. Let her see what she lost. Good luck and continue the hard work. You will find someone who will love you regards of your looks. After all, looks are not everything in this world since sooner than later our looks change as we age.
Remember to show the next woman in your life who much she means to you not with gifts but actions. A single flower (even if you picked it from her house or your neighbors) makes a woman feel special.
2007-01-11 13:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. If I had dumped a man, it probably had nothing to do with his weight, especially if I started dating him and he was already heavy. She's moved on, she let go, she's past it all, now it's your turn. (See, I didn't say move on dude) However, CONGRATS on the getting healthy bit, it's hard work!
2007-01-11 13:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she dumped you for your looks, do you really want her back anyway! Sound like you should look for a girl who will love you for who you are. But congrats on the weight loss, I would like to know what program you have been on!! Yea for You!
2007-01-11 13:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think just because you lost weight she would want you back. She probably just didnt care about you like she once did, and you getting in shape isnt gonna bring those feelings back.
2007-01-11 13:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by angel187_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋