My current GF of around 2 months has had a long lasting relationship before dating me. When we walk, she often says things like: "Me and him made out there, me and him went there to eat, ..." and so on. I know she's not interested in him anymore, that's for sure but it bothers me beyond words that she reminds me of him. Everytime she does, I stop whatever I'm doing and sigh.
Sometimes, we'll just be kissing or in bed and I wonder if he did the same thing as me, if she said the same things, if she's acting the same way, ... and then I'll stop that too.
What can I do to forget him?
2007-01-11 05:16:25 · 10 answers · asked by Andre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am I being overly sensitive about it?
2007-01-11 05:22:28 · update #1
That really sucks that she says stuff like that. The fact is, she isn't thinking about your feelings when she mentions past things she did with her ex. Sounds like she is still sprung on him. We all at times remember past places we've gone with previous g/f's & b/f's, but you never say it out loud. Thats totally wrong. If I were you I would definately have a talk with her. Voice your concern and feelings.
2007-01-11 05:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funny thing is that as much as you want to forget him, you are not the person remembering it is her. She is causing this conflict in your mind because she obviously liked what they had or she would not bring it up so much. What you need to realize is that she is making you very insecure about what is going on. You may not be suspicious, but if it stops you from "doing the deed" then there's a problem.
You really need to talk to her and point out that you love her. You just need to tel her how it is making you feel. Also you can just start doing ultra amazing things for her...make a mfew memories with her. You can push "so-n-so" out of her head....it just may take some time.
2007-01-11 05:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Catalyst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not be able to stop thinking about him until she stops talking about him. If she is like me, he was a big part of her life and until she has new memories with you, she uses what she has to reminise. I know that I talk about my ex a lot with my boyfriend. It is not intention but I was married to him and have children with him so my memories are of him. As time goes along, I mention him less and less and it is a good thing.
Now, on another note, I don't mention the sex life I had with my ex to my bf. I think that is rude and uncalled for, so if I were you, I would tell her that you would appreciate it if she would not mention things like that to you. Maybe she does not realize just how much it bothers you. Good luck and I hope it gets better.
2007-01-11 05:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright man it sounds like if she is talking about where they kissed and what they did and all that stuff she still thinks about him you have to face it there realationship had more in it than what you and her have now it will take time if it is going to pass or it could end very bad for you just do things that make her remember things about you new memories that will make her forget about him its all about what you can do to take her mind off things
2007-01-11 05:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by ~It's Me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up. who cares man? shes with you. you mean to tell me everything that you do with her is completely original and exclusive just to her? if you've ever been in a relationship you would know that we find ourselves in similar situations with new people that we've shared with other people. you want to know if she is with you like she was with him? you said it was a long term relationship so keep your fingers crossed and hope so. its life man, get over it and stop obsessing like a chic.
2007-01-11 05:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by speedy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest with your girlfriend and tell her it bothers you when she makes comments about her ex. she may not know that it bothers you so bad.
2007-01-11 05:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should believe that you are the only man in her life or.... dump her and go out with me im single
2007-01-11 05:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by puddin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to laugh and make fun of it.. you will be happy
and let her know, this kind of situvation annoys you.
2007-01-11 05:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Naren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just block it out
2007-01-11 05:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her!! tell her that bothers you
2007-01-11 05:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by shanayie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋