I have been talking to my ex a little off and on lately since me and my recent gilrfriend broke up........ we wanna get back together and she me too and my only concern is that she is somewhat seeing another girl you know like a lesbian??... but it has been almost 3 years since we broke up but I told her I was willing to look past the fact about her and her little lesbian deal and still give us another shot because that is how I feel in my heart any suggestions or ideas help!
2007-01-11 05:12:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is a concern that she is seeing another woman, then you shouldn't jump into anything until you know for sure that your ex is willing to be in a commited relationship with you and nobody else. If you feel in your heart that you are willing to give the relationship another chance, then I say go for it. Just don't dive into the deep end and take your time with her. That will help ease both of you into things and give you an idea of what your ex is willing to do to be with you again.
2007-01-11 05:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally? I'd give her one more chance. I totally believe in second, and sometimes third, chances. I "let" my ex get away with cheating on me twice, and I left her after the third. I should have learned after the first, but I always give people the benefit of the doubt and want to believe that people do change and will for love.
Give it a go, the worst that can happen is a little heart ache. Heart ache may seem bad at the time you're dealing with it but it's good for us as people. It just makes us stronger :P
2007-01-11 13:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that knows whether this is really a good idea or not. Do you feel comfortable with her leaving her lesbian side? Would you care if she didn't and began seeing you anyway?
Just listen to your innerds, if it feels right then go for it. There just aren't any guarentees in life.
2007-01-11 13:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First. if she was ever to be unfaithful probably it will be a girl......not with another guy..
Second, Make sure she still has feelings for you and not just wanting to mess around.
Third, give her some time and space, because from what i see, i think she is a little confused right now......
2007-01-11 13:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by J . B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is obviously confused about her sexual orientation, she needs space and time to figure that out. Trying to get involved with her at this stage will only complicate the matter for you and her. Give yourself time to heal from your most recent break-up. Get healthy and fit, get a new slick look, do a make over! Get exposure, get culture, get style and you will DEFINATELY attract a new and interesting lady that will appreciate all that you are.
If you don't love yourself, who else will?????
2007-01-11 13:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by pramrcle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can ever be 100% sure that someone is being honest with them. If you want her back and she is willing, take her at face value and that she is telling you the truth. Be open and honest with her about how you feel about her experimenting and tell her that guy or girl, it is still cheating and you will not tolerate it.
2007-01-11 13:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she cheat on someone else. I don't think gender is the issue here. I personally don't think sex matters (ie guy or girl) but are you willing to be in an open relationship or be someone she is seeing behind someone else's back? I think this question needs more details..
2007-01-11 13:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by ChiQuiBaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well give it a try just keep a look out for about 2 months if anything bad happends then leave just don't give her your heart right away.
2007-01-11 13:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by The H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing!! if u can look past the lesbian thing then your on the right track!!
sometimes we have to just except people for who they are !
2007-01-11 13:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by SHORTY38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be careful .. she could just want a penis on the side and not want you for you .. id leave her
2007-01-11 13:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋