My boyfriend has been with several girls before me. He himself has told me that he has cheated before. My friend says that hes cheated on me with at least 3 different people. This friend has lied to me before, she gossips a lot, and she has hurt a lot of people without ever feeling any remorce. I've dated my boyfriend one other time prior to this, and I broke up with him over something my friend said that turned out to be untrue. I want to trust him because he hasn't lied yet as far as I know. I just don't understand why he would change just for me. It doesn't seem like he loves me like he says he does if he even loves me at all. What do I do?!?!?!?!?!?
2007-01-11 05:10:51 · 8 answers · asked by Jillian D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
until you have proof that he's cheating on you then give him the benefit of the doubt....especially if your friend is unreliable.....and I would reconsider my "friendship" with this person.
2007-01-11 05:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by ravred300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do if you truly want the relationship work is let God work. His indiscretions will come out eventually. Guys get sloppy when they think they wont get caught. He will slip up sooner or later. If he tells you that he is not cheating then for the time being let that be his story.
Believe it or not guys do change. When I was 15-18 I didn't care who I was with, if I could get with your best friend I would, but then I joined the Marine Corps, when I was in boot camp I had a lot of time to think about all the hearts I had broken and friendships I had ruined because I wanted to get a piece of tail. I was growning as a man, I realize that in order to find true love and happiness that I would have to give up the cheating and lying. Anyway, long story short, let God work and if he is cheating then it will all come out in the wash.
2007-01-11 05:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say that if you suspect that it is true it probably is.How would you feel about the relationship if you didn't have this suspicion? does it even feel right in the first place?I think you should ask your boyfriend face to face straight out and be confident when you ask him. You will know as soon as he answeres.If you believe he is cheating drop him like a bad habit, no 2nd chances and don't look back,you deserve better. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 05:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to him with the information your friend has told you. Confront him and ask him if there is any truth to it or not. Then maybe even ask the girls he supposively cheated on you w/. If he loves you then he'll understand your need to know the truth. Starting fresh from an old relationship is hard and takes time, trust, and understanding.
Try to use your instincts as well. Good luck.
2007-01-11 05:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this kind of situation, you need to go with your instincts.
Do you feel uncomfortable around him? If so, you should ask for a break, otherwise you'll just have to live him until you catch him in the act of cheating.
Dont trust rumors though. People like to talk cheap.
2007-01-11 05:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you have some solid proof you can't accuse him of anything. If you do you might risk pissing him off to the point where he does actually cheat on you to spite.
Leave well enough alone unless you have explicit proof of his infidelity.
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2007-01-11 05:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that you can't trust him tell him to take a hike and move on with your life
2007-01-11 05:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel he is cheating ...then he is....dont ignore the warnings
2007-01-11 05:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by curious336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋