Why are people so quick to judge?

Question

I have asked questions on here, and also read a lot of answers. Why is it that so many people are just so mean? I mean they do not know the person they are talking to have no right to judge them and yet come up with the meanest things. I know we put questions here for people to answer, but I think what most people are looking for is a non judgemental answer to a situation that is on our minds, correct? Do people enjoy putting other down?

I am not speaking of the questions that are totally crazy, the ones where you know people are just being stupid. I just ignore those.

Answer 1

I agree with you. IT is quite stupid if you ask me. Who wants to hear people put them down. Maybe sometimes to us their questions might seem to be odd, but it could be important to them in a matter of ways. People are just trying to compensate for what they don't have, or try to make others feel bad so they don't have to. Even though it probably doesn't work.

But I must admit that although so many do seem to be a bit harsh, sometimes that is their own personality, it is something they're going to have to work on, but it probably something they didn't realize was so much of a harsh thing...maybe they think people expect it?

Answer 2

You can not control what people think or do, but you are in full control of your own thoughts and actions.
Many people have NO life and NO class. They take this as a game and are unwilling to try and use their own life experiences to help others. They don’t take the questions seriously and are quick to pass judgment.
This is unfortunate, but if you have a serious question, just look for intelligent answers and ignore the stupid, egotistical ones. That’s the benefit of having so many answers posted.

Answer 3

My dear....some people want quick and easy solutions. For the most part, there are none. I for one become annoyed when a question is posted and worded in such as fashion that the reader is not given the complete story. Usually the version given is one which the author softens or even omits their culpability that started the problem in the first place. Then you become the recipient of a nasty e-mail, usually lambasting you for your answer or an additional tidbit is tossed in that changes the original story.
These are the people I live to screw with. People who have taken years to screw up a portion of their life and then become indignaant when you point out to them that they are the main cause of their grief. These are the liars of the world who cannot accept responsibility for their actions. I prefer to think of them as losers.
Hence I take notice of these types and reply in a sarcastic or demaning tone..because they really don't want to hear what YOU have to say. They want to have someone give them the answer that makes THEM feel they aren't at fault so they can feel better about their self centered, selfish and tiny-minded selves.
Of course, those who ask serious and though-provoking questions...such as yourself, deserve the serious and honest answers because you seek truth and enlightment. Not to justify any half-witted action you may have done and now want someone to cry to about.

Answer 4

I think the people on here that are so mean and judgemental, are the kids. Or just very immature people. Most people put others down in order to make themselves feel better. These are the people that are insecure about themselves. Just ignore the answers that hurt your feelings or the answers that make no sense. Some people just try to ruin things for others. Don't let it get to you.

Answer 5

I think some get really bored with the younger kids questions because they are so repetitious. Meaning the same thing over and over. Also, Some people say it like it is, how one perceives the answer is entirely up to them. Meaning the way a person answers doesn't always mean they are being rude or mean. Its the way you read it in your head that maybe you think it's judgmental or mean. Constructive criticism is good for some people, it's all about learning..........

Answer 6

I think it all depends on the mood that you are in at the particular time, example you just got into a massive arguement with your husband/wife, and a question appears about someones spouse being mean,,automatically you are going to jump on the bandwagon, i am a little guilty of that myself,but some rude comments are being made by young children 16 and under, trying to get a rise out of the person that they offended,so take it all in stride and enjoy yourself,

Answer 7

Yes I see you have had a lot of questions and answers on here but you should know by now that there are a lot of people (mostly guys) whom are trolls and they get such a thrill to put people down and make their snide comments. I've found the best thing to do is to report them and then ignore them from there on out.

Good job on reaching level 3.

:-)

Answer 8

i know exactly what you mean .. i have asked questions about ages between like me and my boyfriend which is ony 3 years (15&18) but everyone says to get rid of him because all he wants is sex and all this stuff when I know for sure that he cares for me and that he will always be there for me but i mean i guess since they really dont know the entire story and they dont know who the people are its just there own judgement and theres nothing anyone can do about it .. i mean we are putting questions online .. everyone is entitled to there own opinion .. i personally just ignore it and still think what i want to think ..
hope i helped a little .. and just know .. theres people who think the exact same thing =]

Answer 9

In my line of work, as an ambulance driver, I make very quick judgments on who to trust on the scene. The sad thing, is so far, I haven't been wrong yet, so I've become very very quick to make these judgments, and rarely back down from them. Its a bad habit, but its very hard to break.

Answer 10

Many people are so full of hate and rage, but in real life, they would never dare let it out. But on-line, in the anonymity of it all, they feel no inhibitions and say things simply to hurt. That is why things seem worse here.