She is just recently become sooooo cheeky and back chatting me. If i reprimand her we just get into an arguement and she shouts at me. She is miserable and so am i how can i help her to stop.
2007-01-11 05:06:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have an 8 year old daughter exactly the same. When she mouths at me I give her 2 chances. 1st chance you threaten to take something away e.g. TV, DVD,Mobile phone, 2nd chance take what ever it is off her and the only chance she has of getting it back is when I'm satisfied that she's sorry and she's treated me with the respect I deserve as her dad. You have to hold these things for a minimum of 1 day though. She might still mouth 1st of all, but when she realises you're not going to give in and you mean business the polite daughter you once knew soon kicks back in. Give it a try, its worked for me every time, and now my daughter very rarely mouths. Don't forget, the more she mouths, the more items you take away for a minimum of 1 day. Good luck.
2007-01-12 21:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Carl H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the parent. Parents do not permit children to argue and shout. In a loving, but firm way set clear guidelines of behavior and explain the consequences of crossing the line.
And be consistent in enforcing the consequences. If she continues to misbehave, the consequences also increase. In time, she will understand the parent-child relationship.
Understanding the roles will become increasingly important as she gets older.
It is critical that you do not shout in response or misbehave either. You can exert parental authority and control without shouting or screaming.
When she disagrees or when you are disciplining her for misbehavior, always tell her how much you love her and explain that what you allow and disallow is based on your love for her and her future welfare.
2007-01-11 05:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Carl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my son started doing this I warned him to stop, told him he would be sorry. He kept doing it. One morning (after many warnings the day before) he was arguing with his brothers at 6:00 am. I got out of bed and got a big garbage bag. I walked into his room and put every Nintendo console and game, every movie and dvd, and all other electronic equipment that he had in there in the bag. I told him that the other toys were next if he didn't change his attitude. He just sat on his bed watching me. He was so shocked. I gave the stuff back after a week or so. His attitude definately changed.
He'll be 8 years old this month.
2007-01-11 05:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember the golden rule - you are the parent and have to remain in charge and apply discipline. Sounds hard, but you can't let this behaviour continue - it's bad manners and means that, if she gets away with it on you, then she will apply it to teachers and other people and make life very difficult for herself.
You may try and find out the cause, perhaps she's hanging with some new friends and they're not a good influence.
But I'm afraid it comes down to the basics:
good behaviour equals rewards
bad behaviour equals punishment
Sorry, but that's just how it is.
Good luck
2007-01-11 05:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 8 shes a bit young for the hormones to be kicking in. do you think she may have a problem at school? ma bye shes being bullied or shes finding schoolwork a bit difficult. at that age kids dont normally become so difficult overnight. also the fact you say shes miserable points to other problems, even maybe at home? you could try to get her on her own, maybe in her bedroom where she feels relaxed, and ask if there are any worries she may have. let her know that she can totally trust you, then she might open up and then you can get to the bottom of your daughters real problem. good luck
2007-01-11 05:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by joanne f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you will not be tolerating that activity and set a punishment. Usually a good one is to take a favorite activity away from them.
SO if she talks back or gets cheeky let her know that she is warned and then if she repeats the behavior remove or restrict and activity for a given time frame. During that time if she does it again remove or restrict another activity. Rinse and repeat till clean.
2007-01-11 05:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as girls hit about this age, they start this.
Make a time out, and stick to it. You are the parent, and the adult. Do not lower yourself to arguing with her. Have a warning signal, like "ok, that is 1." and stick to it. The moment she gets the 3 strikes, do the time out.
Also, make mommy-daughter time with her, like every week the two of you go for lunch and shopping, or whatever. Make it something to look forward to, because she is at that age where she wants to be treated more "grown up", and also where she needs someone to talk to.
2007-01-11 05:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by shaclare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are the parent....ground her, take away her privileges until she learns some respect....don't give her pocket money and don't allow her to use any of the stuff in the house till she learns manners, be firm with her, don't buckle in if she throws a hissy, put her in her room and don't let her out till she has calmed down, let her scream and shout and have her tantrums, tell her that every time she kicks into backchat mode she will stay in her room, without any computer or television or anything else for that matter, also stop her going out with her friends and make her stay in at weekends too...she has to learn that you are the adult in your house, not her.... your her parent don't allow her to run you into the ground, maybe she's copying her friends and thinks it's (cool) to talk to you like that....show her who the parent is in your house....have a long talk with her, and tell her that she is to stop now or you will keep punishing her till she learns how to respect you...it worked for me when my son was that age...
2007-01-11 05:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and talk about it. Let her know that talking back, rolling her eyes and huffing away, will no longer be tolerated. Be firm!! Tell her from this moment forward there are going to be consequences for her actions. Let her know what those consequences are. Once you have layed down the rules "follow through" and be consistent. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 05:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't argue- don't shout back. I am a secondary school teacher and parent to 4 kids, I promise if only one person is talking- the argument does not exist. Walk away and refuse to discuss anything until she calms down- do not respond to insults or threats. put her somewhere safe and ignore her until she calms down.
2007-01-11 05:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by paxo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋