I have been doing the online dating thing for a little while now. Most of my dates have been pleasant, with the occasional bad date, but nothing drastic. However, in the last month I have talked to some of the most arrogant, self worshiping men. These men are not really any different than the men I talked to and met before, mainly education professional men, most divorced with grown or teenage children, and most have lived at a distance from me (I live in the city and most of them have lived in the suburbs). I used to talk to guys, and we would meet and they didn't mind driving 30 miles to meet me but lately it seems I find nothing but guys who won't date outside their town (although they are looking for someone within 50 miles of them according to their profile). They seem to be rude, arrogant, and non compromising although they mention the importance of compromise in a relationship (I guess they expect the other person to compromise). Any way to humble these arrogant men?
2007-01-11 05:03:46 · 11 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you go into a relationship planning to change someone you are making a mistake. Don't go into a relationship unless you like who that person is and can accept them for who they are. If you think you are going to change them into someone you like, you are making a big mistake. There are usually warning signs of arrogant men, listen to your heart and stay away from them. Because all they care about is themselves and you don't want to be stuck in a relationship with a selfish person! Hope this helps and good luck in your search. :)
2007-01-11 05:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny, the dating scene dried up in most places upon the advent of the Internet era. I personally don't think things online are any different than they were in bars, with the possible exception of readily available alcohol.
It boils down to screening, basically. If you talk to these people online, ask them real questions and get real answers...if they give the wrong answers, you shouldn't continue to hope that they will change their views; that's what women have been doing in relationships for years and it DOESN'T work! And by the way, what kind of grown man only dates in a 50-mile circle??? That's what trains, planes and automobiles are for!
2007-01-11 05:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh, you know that you can't change them, don't bother even trying! The thing I've found with the online dating scene, is that a lot of people will list in their profile what they THINK they want, or what they think they are willing to do (travel a distance to meet you). However, when it comes down to it, they put that stuff in their profiles to open their possibilities. I'm sure you will find one...or some...that will work for you, until then, happy dating!
2007-01-11 05:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of spending valuable time and energy trying to "humble these arrogant men," why don't you instead focus your efforts on meeting the kind of men you'd rather date. Step one: remove yourself from the computer screen. Continue your search in the public realm, where millions of couples once met before the invention of the Internets. And good luck to you.
2007-01-11 05:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people suffer from a lack of confidence. However, when trying to win over the guy/girl one is attracted to one must demonstrate an air of confidence, so most people are left to fake it. With men in particular this fake confidence often manifests as arrogance. They become over-confident and 'full of themselves' because they are, in fact, trying to convince themselves of their own self-worth.
There is nothing you can do to change these or any other men. People can change, yes, but only through their own desire and effort.
Instead, you'll unfortunately have to sort through a lot of these losers before you find a man who 'knows himself'. A man who is profoundly aware of his own strengths and weaknesses has true self-confidence. He likes himself, but isn't in love with himself.
If that is the type of guy you're looking for you might want to consider re-vamping your internet profile. You're looking for a man of substance, so if you list you interests as sex, getting drunk, partying with my girlfriends, and sports... well, you will get a lot of response but probably from more guys like you have been. There is nothing wrong with the interests above unless you're being dishonest by listing them, which will most certainly attract the wrong guy. Still, you want to add something of substance from your own interests - reading, politics, poetry, art, philosophy, religion - almost everybody has some depth in some area. The type of guy you're looking for wants a woman who is attractive and fun, but also has something else to offer.
As for the distance thing, that is probably just a cop out. They lack the guts to say, "You don't seem as into me, as I'm into me." so they pass it off as a distance issue.
2007-01-11 05:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by du_robot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even baseball players get into a slump sometimes. These losers are not worth your time, be thankful it is only one date. Find the man that wants to date you and is willing to climb a mountain to see you and get to know you.
It could be worse, you could have been the wife of one of these losers.
Good luck.
PS - I like Dorman143's answer, get off the computer for awhile and meet people in person. Why not start with your circle of friends?
2007-01-11 05:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-29 03:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by willsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. If you don't like them, don't date them. Is the distance thing the only reason you have to think that they are only thinking of themselves? And how many is "so many"? I'll try to answer better if you add those details. Good luck!
2007-01-11 05:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrogant men, by definition, cannot be humbled. They are not worthy of your time or attention. Find a man who will cherish you and appreciate you for who you are and how you make them feel.
2007-01-11 05:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no need to humble them. Just be glad you know so early on
2007-01-11 05:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋