I really want to start dating girls and thinking about marriage but the problem is that I'm not a good looking guy,I have no self-esteem and afraid of making eye contact(especially with girls).
Honestly,I don't think that I can love myself maybe until I become a doctor,rich and have a great plastic surgery.
2007-01-11 04:59:00 · 11 answers · asked by James 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok yeah the lack of self confidence isnt gonna help you find somebody. Think of things you are good at or that make you proud. If you are going to be a doctor you are probably compassionate, very intelligent, and self-motivated. Think of other things you have going i.e. humor, personality, etc. Being rich and looking great aren't everything. If you have no self-esteem it will show and the $$ ain't gonna by that for you. Confidence is very sexy, so get yourself some and I am sure the ladies will come a knockin'
2007-01-11 05:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, stop comparing yourself to other guys. You are you and if you are a decent and nice guy you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Body image is a tremendous issue with so many young men. Genetics is a huge factor in having that kind of a body. Yes, you can work out and such but the bottom line is that you must have the genes first and then the work out brings out that kind of body.
Just be yourself and don't worry about what other people think. It's their loss.
You will find a girlfriend. There are plenty of girls out there that are into guys that are not into themselves! By this, I mean there are plenty of girls that don't want a pretty boy or a guy that spends more time on his hair than his car.
You gotta get over comparing yourself to others. Just be you and be the best you that you can be and some girl will see this and really love you for it.
2007-01-11 05:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa man. Dont set standards like that for yourself. Until you a rich good looking doctor? F that go get girls now. You see all the time ugly *** dudes with hot babes.
If you want something you ahve to accept all the hard things that come with it. You think Michael Jordan got so good because he was afraid to miss a basket? Hell no he missed more baskets than he made.
If you want to get girls, you have to humiliate yourself for a lil bit at first. Go up to a girl, look her in the eyes, and smile.
next time Step it up from there, say hi
then step it up some more, start a convo. etc.
Girls arent attracted to the kind of person you are right now. If you want girls, you have to be what girls like. You can keep your personality, just improve it and tailor it to what girls like.
Quit being a wuss. Be a man. you can do it. And forget about being married, once you start dating, being single is way more fun.
2007-01-11 05:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by undrgrndhiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here is the deal, looks don't matter really. If you want to love yourself then try doing something for yourself and having fun. When I am feeling down about myself then I like to get a new haircut or maybe buy and new outfit. I do something that I think makes me look good and then with that confidence builder maybe just go out with some friends and have fun. If you look happy it usually helps to get the girls. Just do something for yourself it will make you feel good and with that confidence just have fun.
2007-01-11 05:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by krystaldarnell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,first of all before someone can love you, you have to love yourself.Sounds impossible?Well I have to tell you that I've been through exactly the same situation as you and I'm telling that It's not that hard at all.At first you should make at list of your advantages and disadvantages, sounds kind of stupid but believe me it helps a lot.Secondly,look yourself in the mirror and start saying good things that you find to yourself(ex.My hair aren't lookin' that bad after all etc.)And always remember smile this is the key that opens the door to anything you want!!!
I hope I helped a little bit. . .
2007-01-11 05:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember there is someone for everyone. You have to realize that if you were rich, had seven degrees, an expensive car, you would still be you. Surgery cannot correct your inner scars. You must love yourself and know that you are a individual with many talents and a lot to offer. If a woman cannot love you for who you are, you don't want that woman. Be confident with who you are.
2007-01-11 05:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God loves you just as you are....You are very special in God's eyes....You should never feel less of you.....There is only one you in the whole entire world....first start accepting you as you are....gain the self confidence....God can sure help you there....
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new." 2 cor5:17....
2007-01-11 05:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think that you are great and have a lot to offer, why would anyone else find those special qualities? You have to love yourself, nobody is perfect, nobody looks perfect, you need to find your own inner beauty and unique qualities that make you who you are. Best of Luck!
2007-01-11 05:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I read already your going to be and honest gentleman.You still are growing you haven't became a prince yet .Weight until it's your turn to learn and you will be one soon enough.
2007-01-11 05:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look in the miror and say "i am beautifull" 10 times, first youll feel stupid but later you'll love yourself, P.s sports help alot
2007-01-11 05:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋