How do I talk to my 10 year old son about sex?

Answer 1

well here is what i have been doing as a mother of a 9 year old girl now a days they say 9-10 is when you need to start having talks about this stuff so yeah! i cant believe it either! but i have been trying to talk more about respect for her self and her body then per say "sex" about how she is special and that people boys and girls should like her for her self and her interest not for what she can do or give them how she needed to take care of her self so she stays healthy and strong exercise eat right and not get sick that its her job to make sure she is making healthy choices about her body and life that some time people promise to like you or be your best friend or love you but only if you prove it to them and so the best way to do this is by being a good friend talking and finding things that you have in common but if they want things she is not comfortable offering then they really aren't her friend or if she says no to something they are doing and they get mad then they really aren't friends. right now i am just trying to lay down a foundation for self respect and respect of others and the understand of self responsibility from that point i try working on peer pressure the whole "everybody is doing it" thinking and how she knows what shes been taught and what is right for her and our family then i will begin getting more specific so i figure in the next 2 years when she is 11 we will have talked about the final points and only to a level i feel she is ready for! good luck!

Answer 2

BE HONEST!! Children today are sheilded away from sex and learning it at school with their friends and being mis-informed. Use the clinical terminology.Explain what happens, why it happens. Explain that sex is great, but let him know the dangers of sex also.
For those people who think 10 is too young to have the sex talk... many girls get their period at that age, they need to know what is going on with their body. Little boys are going through the same thing at that time. Inform them!

Answer 3

Wow, age 10? I had to sit through that crap at age 5 because my mother was a screamer...I thought she was being killed!!! Anyway, there's never a set way but my dad sat me down and got a picture of the internal male and female body. He did his best to explain what happens (both male and female sides) and told me of what will happen within the coming years with my body. Too bad my mom would talk anything about sex. I learned everything from my dad and the rest of the jargon from 6th grade sex ed. Just explain what you know and research answers together if neither of you understand. I learned of sex, menstration, STD and birth control at 5. Of course I didn't understand all of it but it really did help. Anyway, don't wait any longer...56% of 12 year olds are no longer virgins!!! Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I have a 10 years old. She and I went for a girls day out and I asked her point blank, "What do you know about sex?". She told me and we started talking from there. I answered her questions honestly, but I only provided the information she asked for, nothing more or less. I told her that she and I can talk about anything and that she can come to me with questions anytime. I told her that when I was a kid, all of my friends told me lots of things and I wondered what was true and what was not. I didn't have an adult to check with. I told her that she does.

Answer 5

What has he asked you? Answer as honestly as possible. Go to the library first and get a couple of books so you are prepared. having said that if you live in the UK (and many parts of the USA) he has probably had sex education so may times at scholol he is probably sick of the subject and could tell you more ABOUT IT THAN THE OTHER WAY ROUND. (sorry hit the capitals button by accident and am too lazy to re type it.)

Answer 6

don't have ONE enormous formal communicate. carry diverse factors up casually in verbal change. this way it truly is extremely casual, you supply him time to digest what you've stated. a week or so later advance yet another sex topic if he had any previous questions he will ask then. i imagine the a lot less formal you're making it the better it really is. the very shown reality that you keep revisiting the concern also helps him to work out that it truly is ideal open verbal change. once you're making it "the communicate" he received't come to you with any stick with up. it really is How I dealt with it. also even as he comes homestead from sex ed be sure you confer with him to work out what they have taught him and how he feels about all of it.

Answer 7

Just answer his questions in an honest,but basic manner. No details-he'll be too young to take that in and it will confuse him.
My daughter was 6 when she started asking questions,and I contacted Parentline Plus about how to talk to her about it. They were really helpful and even sent me a list of books that were age appropriate.
Better hge learns the truth from you and books than things other kids make up!

Answer 8

10 seems a little young to me, but I understand that in today's society it's a race to see who can "educate" our children sooner, media or parents.

In my opinion, I would ease him into it a little bit. Don't get into the details now, as I still feel he's a little bit young. Instead, I personally would instill respect for women in him, mostly so he doesn't start to act the way we see alot of young boys act these days, disrespecting women and looking at them as lower beings, etc. Good luck.

Answer 9

at what age did u have ur 1st lesson if it was good ? then use that as a marker if not then you need help see ur doctor, can't understand why a 10yr old would need to know let it be a chid for as long as possible they are a long time adults

Answer 10

Don't tell him until he asks u anything abt it.
Or tell him summink if he asked u.
If he asked u just say that " when u r older u will learn"
When he is like 12 and over than tell him or he might already knw by then.