Do you think, or in your case, that if a man was in love with the women he got pregnant, that he would want her to have an abortion? Keep in mind that the person I speak of (my boyfriend) has 2 children already. (of course so do I) not his. He knows how I feel about abortion, we discussed it a few months ago before I eneded up pregnant. He knows I would not be able to live with myself and probably be totally crazy after. And he also knows that I lost a baby boy @ 15 weeks of pregnancy 5 years ago. And this time I was on the pill and due to some female conditions I was told I may not even be able to get pregnant, yet I did. Almost like "someone" made that decision for us, ya know? I sometimes feel like he just doesnt love me and never had any intentions of loving me.
2007-01-11 04:51:33 · 16 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he loved you and had any morals then he would accept the child.....if he wasn't ready for a child then he should have kept his manhood in his pants!
2007-01-11 04:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered the question in your opening line: "What's love go to do with it"! The expense and responsibility in a household with 2 children and the care and feeding of two others is likely the reason for his concern. It's got nothing to do with him loving you; he probably just never expected you to pop up pregnant after the explanation you gave us of your medical condition. No, the time has come to pay the piper, so you two need to talk, and not about foolishness like 'love'.
2007-01-11 04:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many ppl live in different life and things happen. if u reallt think he dosen love u. (i m very very sorry to tell u this ) u should move on ur life. i know whenthis happen u will nv trust a guy anymore or nv dare to go for another relationship but all i have to say make sure u will wise when making decision like this. we hav no right ask u what to do or how wrost ur life is. all we can do is bless u and hope u will run a better life met a charming guy who really want to be with u and give u comfort and fulfillur life with happiness and joyness.
2007-01-11 05:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all sweetheart, why are you porking a guy who was telling you ahead of time that he taught about abortion. YOU mess up, YOU taught he would change, YOU mess up. He has already two children to be responsible for, do you think he wants to add more burdern??? Of course he wants an abortion, he does not want more children, more mistakes, more hassle. Cupcakes, why were you involved with someone with two kids already, do you have any self-worth to attract a man with no children??? Do you think ahead at all before spreading your legs???
2007-01-11 05:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's an issue of love. If you both have kids already, and this was all unplanned, then it's probably very stressful on him. Another kid will add to the stress of a relationship, especially a very young one.
I also see where you're coming from though. At the end of the day, it's your body, and your choice. He can't make you have one. I think he's just voicing his opinion on the matter, but his love for you, or lack thereof, has nothing to do with it.
2007-01-11 04:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by koepnick012787 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he just doesn't want to have any more children. Not to say that he doesn't love you but he just may have different view points on the abortion topic which he has every right to have his own views on that.
But lets keep it real, you are ultimately the one with the decision and looks like you have already made yours. And thats what matters right now. He is just going to have to deal with it.
2007-01-11 04:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure that you've got things lined up properly here. what does love have to do with him asking you to have an abortion? men think in more concrete terms and perhaps he's concerned about being able to take care of another child. maybe he never intended to have any more children. maybe he's not even aware that he's not taking your feelings into consideration. you need to be talking to him about this.
2007-01-11 04:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife got pregnant with our third child recently... a child neither of us wanted. We are both upset about it, but those are the cards we're dealt. Neither one of us believes infanticide is an acceptable solution for a mistake, so we just have to live with it and love the child as if it WAS wanted.
2007-01-11 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe he is just scared. Most men do not want their women to have an abortion. Do what is best for you. Babies come for a reason.
2007-01-11 04:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want kids and told you so...
You will not have an abortion and he knows it..
"Someone" did not make you pregnant...
It happened when you had sex with him...
He can either accept it or leave you...
If he loves you deeply enough, he will keep you and child.
2007-01-11 04:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋