ok I need some help. Me and my boyfriend was sitting down talking last night watching a movie, We started asking eachother questions about personal lives so we can know more about eachother, Then finally I poped the Question if " He has ever cheated before in the past " well he came straight out and said that, in the past he has cheated for another girl. but around 2 years ago, his pay-back finally came for him. He stated that he whish'es he never did it, and that he learned his lesson from it ( Which he got cheated on). He said that he didn't realize that it hurt so bad, and he would never hurt me or anyone in the future. I got upset about it because you know how girls are when they hear that stuff. But I mean i guess i have to get over it. I have to have some trust in him. I just want to know what you guys think that me beeing upset and getting over it, and him comming out and telling the truth was the right thing. I know its good he didn't lie, so just let me know what you guys thin
2007-01-11 04:46:28 · 10 answers · asked by SHORTY38 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this guy is being real with u. dont mess that up. u should be thankful he told u the truth bout something like that, cuz i think not many guys do that. and if he says he learned his lesson, then why u trippin? we all make mistakes in life but we also learn from them. if he has never cheated on u or even given u the thought that he will, then u shouldnt be mad at him. just be glad hes opened up to u, and thank him for being real with u.
2007-01-11 04:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by oc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd give him the credit for having the guts to tell you that he had cheated for another girl. Well, just put yourself in his shoes. If you guys were to be honest with each other and you had cheated on any guy before, would you dare tell him the truth?At least he had the guts, right? Well, people learn from their mistakes. He did. I know it's hard to get over it but you will, eventually. Just put some trust in him and try to make him appreciate you more. Make him feel needed and loved.Tell him that you love him even for the littlest things he do for you. If ever he intends to cheat on you in the future, he'll think of things you did for him.
2007-01-11 05:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by summer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the chances of you ever having a bf that never cheated on anyone is extremely slim so get over it. What he did in the past has nothing to do with you. If he cheats on you once I would say he would do it again but what he did with others in the past has no reflection on what he will do with you.
2007-01-11 04:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you ask a loaded question like that and expect the truth, you should be able to handle whatever that truth is. He does not deserve your wrath or tears for being honest with you.
What reason could you possibly have for being upset with him? All he did was answer your stupid question honestly.
2007-01-11 04:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say trust him unless he gives you a reason to not at this point. I really do know how much it hurts and maybe that is all it took for him to make a personal pac that he wouldn't do it again. No reason to be mad, try not to read into it too much.
Good Luck!
2007-01-11 04:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jules Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's been honest about it, the best thing for you to do is trust him. It's in the past, and if you want a real relationship with him, then you need to move past it and trust him. It's key for the relationship to work.
2007-01-11 04:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by koepnick012787 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sometimes look honesty is only way to maintain this relaitonship,well i must say uhave met a guy who is honest with althrough u don like the answer he gave which is true, i guess he is doing the rite thing and i think you give him a chance to prove it.if u act like u don want to continue this relationship tis is very very unfair to him cz he tried to b honest with u and u should b supporting waht u just say to him.
2007-01-11 04:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think good for him he told you the truth. I think you had no right to get upset you asked the question, he didn't do it to you. Your blowing things out of proportion.
2007-01-11 04:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by kelleyann_p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Guys/husbands tell us things that makes us happy. Your guy wants you to be happy, because he played the question game with you.
2007-01-11 04:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him the benefit of the doubt.
2007-01-11 04:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by vandykeprincess06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋