Okay so me and this guy have a 7 year history together...we have dated, but we were also best friends. We would break up, date other people, get back together....but we always stayed friends through everything. What we had was so special...we loved each other, we could read each others minds...there was just that feeling between us you know? Like everything was perfect when we were together. We always sais that we would always be there for each other, no matter what. The last time we hung out, we had sex....and then we got into a really big fight, I tried to work things out that day, but he was drinking and being unreasonable. Well he ended up pushing me into the counter and I had a huge bruise on my stomach. Nothing like this has ever happened before...so I know he wasnt really tryin to hurt me. So I left, and I was so mad and hurt that he let me leave instead of working **** out that I sent him a letter saying to never call me or talk to me ever again. Now I miss him, what do I do???
2007-01-11 04:44:07 · 23 answers · asked by spoiledrottenchica1987 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah i agree things are probably better left alone, I meant that I miss being his freind, we were really close. I dont want to be with him, I am seeing someone else...thanks for your answers!
2007-01-11 05:10:41 · update #1
You were physically assaulted. Regardless of whatever excuse you may try and come up with this man's conduct was inexcusable and unforgivable. In addition, this is a sign of what may have come along further down the pike in the relationship. No? You think otherwise? madam...any man who hasn't the self control to keep his anger in check, especially the laying of hands on another, has no place in your life. That is unless you enjoy being "Little Miss Punching Bag".
You do what you want. Me? I think you're better off without him.
2007-01-11 04:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two do not have an adult, working relationship together. You responded in an imature way with the letter and he responded in a criminally and negative way to your argument. That's a poison neither of you need in your life. The secret to the rest of your life will be that you learn from the mistakes you make. You pine for him, but you both learned that you make bad decisions in each other's presence. Learn from those mistakes so you don't make them again. Use the pain you feel now to remind yourself of these mistakes and the pain you and your "friend" inflicted.
Then try really hard not to make the same mistakes.
2007-01-11 12:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jason W-S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby its time to start what is called: "The Healing Process"
Its time for you to move on or at least take a break from him. You guys need some time at the least. I'm going to be honest with you. The healing process is going to be a very tough time for you. Your going to miss him, your going to want to call him, your going to want to even hug, kiss, and even have sex with him. But you must not or you will just be making matters worst and you will have to start this healing process all over again. And trust that something that you dont want.
So do not call or see him and please dont have sex with him. You need to keep yourself busy because an idle mind will think about him and only him. Keeping yourself busy will take your mind off of him and this helps you get over him. And if you have to take action to force yourself to stop the communication then do that. Its time to make you happy now so focus on you.
2007-01-11 12:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call him and try to talk to him about what happened and see if you 2 can work it out if things were as good as you said then this shouldn't go on long you both probably just needed some time to cool down.
2007-01-11 13:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you want out of this relationship. I no you have been with him for 7 years but have things moved forward or are they at a stand still. O course this doesn't help the fact you miss him. You have been with him for so many years there are alot of emotions that are going to be there. You need to decide if you love him and want to continue the same path or if you need a change and should tell him. If you need that chance in your relationship he needs to meet it.
2007-01-11 12:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by LadyBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think you miss him because of the attention he was giving you and sounds to me that you have been trying really hard to win his love but you sound like a person who is lost and it wasn't so long ago i was right where you are and then something happened- i found someone to take away the pain, heartache and loneliness he loves me unconditionally and fills me with peace and joy and in everything i do now he is the one i put first and he gives me the desires of my heart and directs all my step his name is Jesus and he wants to love you the same way and i promise you your life wont be the same, get on your knees right now and pray ask him to take away all your hurting and ask him to forgive you of all your sins and be sincere and he will grant you the desires of your heart. worked for me and it will work for you too guaranteed!
2007-01-11 12:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by seekingjesus42007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is talk to him and tell him how you really feel. Be honest and truthful and tell him what you just told me. Find out what it is he really wants, see if that is you. Being up front and honest is the only way to truly find out what is going on inside his mind. Find out if what he wants is what you want. Remember, don't settle for less than what you and your heart desires.
2007-01-11 12:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.
You have feelings for him yes but if he left you after one fight maybe he didn't share the feelings.
Or maybe he was ashamed of what he did and cant face you. IF you do recontact him start off small, don't expect the romance to restart again.
2007-01-11 12:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Tophat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably misses you as much as you miss him. Call him or go and see him somthing that special dosnt happen everyday. You odnt wan tto live life thinking "what if?" You need to go see him talk to him and work things out. He probably loves you jsut as much as you love him. You don't want to ruin anyhting this special.
2007-01-11 12:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Some dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby, or counseling. No matter how you think he didn't mean it no one has the right to do you harm. If they do it drinking its doubly worse because that is their excuse and you end up 'forgiving them' over and over again.
Stay away.. before you really get hurt!
2007-01-11 12:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋