I'm in love with my boyfriend...but I don't wanna have sex till I'm married. He hasn't pressured me to have sex, he only does what I'm comfortable with. But how far is too far? Any advice would be helpful....
2007-01-11 04:41:29 · 42 answers · asked by XxForever&EverxX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No Love doesn't require sex. I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend (who just had a baby. My Step-Son bat-baby as he likes to be called) and she doesn't want to have sex until she is ready and until her sex drive comes back. Its no problem with me because i'm a virgin. We love each other to death and are planning on getting married and having more children (besides my step-son bat-baby). We do play around sometime like touching etc but if she thinks its going to far then she will stop it and you have to respect that. But no sex isn't required to be in love trust me on this it makes the relationship stronger if its not a factor at the moment. Hope this helped you out some coming from a guy's point of view. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 04:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by The Plague 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he only does what you are comfortable with and he does not pressure you, then he is a keeper. Do not compromise what you believe in for anyone. If he does not want to wait until marriage, then you need to let him go. The last thing that you should do is take a risk and have sex with him. Think about how you would feel if you sleep with him and he breaks up with you later. Be careful and make a decision that is best for you.
You know you have gone too far when you feel intimidated, uncomfortable or confused.
Remember love has nothing to do with sex.
2007-01-11 04:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Love doesn't always require sex, I think it's great that you want to wait until marriage and that he doesn't pressure you. How far is to far would have to be a personal decision, but I don't think it's right for a woman or girl to get a man or boy excited and then walk away. Everyone is different as to how much "making out" they can do before getting excited.
2007-01-11 04:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only do what you are comfortable doing. And don't be pressured into do something more. You'll know when you're ready, and if you want to wait until you are married then that's up to you and he should respect that, which it sounds like he does. Sex is better between two people that genuinley love each other.
2007-01-11 04:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by hasgr8boyz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love does not always require sex! My last relationship lasted 4 years w/ my bf and he respected that I wanted to wait until I felt comfortable and when I felt it was time (i wasn't necessarily waiting until marriage but that was my intension coming into the relationship, but I guess at some point, it wasnt about waiting until marriage just when I felt it was the perfect time). He never pressured me. And it was great, it was true love. I ended un breaking up with him.
2007-01-11 04:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he accepts your limitations which is good....but in reality only one person can tell you what your limitations are...and that's you.
But to your question yes Love can exist without sex....sex or love making is what is done to to bring the two together is marriage and to bring children into a family.
People have just brought the gratification of sex to a relationship outside of marriage for there own personal sexual gratification.....sex does not constitute love.
Make and set your limitations and do what you can live comfortable with...its your body and decision.
Good luck
2007-01-11 04:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not require sex. You should only do what is comfortable to you. I respect you practicing abstinence. If you are saving your self, I believe anything outside of your comfort zone would be too far. So if you guys are hot and heavy, if it doesn't feel right to you right now, then this is too far. I applaud you and good luck.
2007-01-11 04:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by China Doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, love does not require sex, and good for you, I hope you make it till marriage, far too few people even care to try anymore. And don't worry, he knows that if you say stop that he helped to put himself in the situation and knew that you would probably say no all along, so don't feel bad either.
2007-01-11 04:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without sex the love will actually begin to fade and dissolve. It's like constantly working on something and never seeing the progress or fruition. Like working on an assembly line or something love without sex will leave you feeling hollow and unfulfilled as you gradually lose interest.
Love is affected by our instincts and genetic imperatives, and like everything else, if there's no payoff we stop trying. Love and attraction is not a conscious choice, so it will fade whether you like it or not....
Unless you get married early and start having lots of sex - but that might result in a divorce anyway.
2007-01-11 04:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mike K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course love doesn't require sex. I was with my girlfriend (my wife now) for almost 4 years and we never had sex.
Trust me, it is well worth the wait. Why give up your virginity to someone that doesn't mean enough to you to marry? Ignore the media, and trust in yourself that abstaining is the right thing to do.
Plus, there is no chance you end up pregnant. Even some guys that tell you they love you will dump you if that happens.
And if he doesn't respect your decision, he's not the right guy for you. Hope this helps.
2007-01-11 04:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by theearlybirdy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋