My boyfriend likes this girl a lot. He used to have relations with her. They have only meet 3 times.Last time she came to stay he acted as if I wasnt there. She even sleeped in our bed! What do I do? If I say no I look like a *****. If I say Yes I have to go through it again.
2007-01-11 04:40:13 · 31 answers · asked by mandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have a lot to say about that! How do u allow ur boyfriend to bring another girl over to sleep in your bed?! Think about it! ( Either ur DUMB ( no offence) Or he's using u!) You know he likes he alot why even let him continue seeing her? If he ignored you when she's around that means that he's not feeling you the way he feels her. Thats not Fair! I dont understand what type of relationship u to have but you need to put ur foot DOWN! B/c if u dont stand for somethng u will fall for anything! ( you already fell for it the first time!) If she's not his mother then she has no business sleeping in YOUR bed!!!! I feel sorta sorry for you but if i were you i'd tell him if he even talk to her again its over! Why is she coming over anyway? Why cant you AND him take a vaction to her house to spend the weekend?! he's making you look real stupid in front of her and everyone else who knows that he is doing this. If I were you I'd call her and talk to her personally and tell her that you dont feel comortable with her coming over and spending time with your man like that. If she's not into him she'll understand competely but if she is then she will put up a fight. but talk to him and tell him how u feel, if he doesnt respect that the he doesnt deserve to be with you and tell him that! But i wish you the best of luck with this relationship.
oh yea if my boyfriend ever tried me like that he'd be on the front page the next morning I can see the head lin " GIRL CHOPS OF MANS BALLS AND FEED IT TO HIM!"
but thats just me... let me know how it goes ( i feel sorry for you!)
2007-01-11 04:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a now bf, this guy's hashed. Seriously, any guy who would do that isn't worth the scuff mark on your boot from kicking his sorry *** to the curb.
You sound like a nice person--maybe too nice for your own good. Grow some cajones and stand up for yourself because obviously, no one else is.. Best of luck.
2007-01-11 04:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If he is looking outside of your relationship, then he does not really love you.
2. If he is hanging on to her, and does not value what he has in you - he does not really love you.
3. If your self esteem is so low that you would consider letting him walk on you like you were a doormat, you really do not love you either.
Read the book: He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (Hardcover) by Greg Behrendt and then enjoy your new world of self esteem! :)
2007-01-11 04:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by thrashlou 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should probably let this guy go.
If having her around makes you uncomfortable you should be able to tell him this and he should be able to either put your mind at rest about the whole thing (not likely from the sound of it) or give up the idea without a fuss.
If he can't do either one of these things then get rid of him.
2007-01-11 04:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your boyfriend likes another girl alot this spells trouble for you... I would suggest inviting a guy friend over and see how he likes it.
That or have a 3-way...that could be fun.
If eother of those options do not apeal to you confront him about the situation and act accordinlgy...he will lead your decision with his response.
2007-01-11 06:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you aren't comfortable with this relationship. If he wants another woman to join the two of you, and you are against it, then he must make a decision.
You have made your decision.
Stick by it.
I'm sure some other guy would be happy to have you as his girlfriend.
Good Luck.
2007-01-11 04:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say No! If he really loves you and cares for you. He wil understand how you feel. Don't worry about what he says or thinks, its nothing good when another women comes over! If he disagrees with you and decides to invite her anyway then leave him!
2007-01-11 04:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? You let your boyfriend invite another woman he likes to sleep in your bed? LEAVE HIM NOW!! Let him have her and you move on to better!! You should have left the first time he suggested anything!
2007-01-11 04:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's totally ridiculous!! If my man ever brought home another woman he would be out on the street. Why would you want to be with someone that wants to be with someone else. I would tell him exactly how you feel, and if he still chooses to have this person come I would say "see ya!!"
2007-01-11 04:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by hasgr8boyz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of it.
Respect yourself.
Don't worry about what anyone thinks of you.
You've got to love yourself and jsut say no.
I don't expect him to stay, because yes, you made the mistake of letting it happen once.
It's OK, forgive yourself, and the next time you're with someone, don't let things happen.
You'll be fine.
2007-01-11 04:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋