hi frnds
I m 21, not interested in having bf, so called love & all dat stuff, i belive to b practical, had just 2 crush till now. Problem is, I like a guy who is my 2nd crush. I used to just keep staring at him coz i liked his sight it made me happy, but now i stopped coz i think he & his frnds making fun of dat ( not sure). Actually he is my bro's frnd, even my mom dad likes him coz he is really a nice, decent guy. I have never talked to him but still i think i know him very well, I just want him to b my frnd, I wanna talk to him I want him to talk to me. I even have his email id but i wont mail him coz dats not me, my reputation is of a silent & sober gal & i dont wanna ruin dat & also i dont like to b in a place where i m unwanted ie i dont know if he likes me or not so I want him to make the 1st move. He looks like one of my cousin & he knows dat so another problem is may b he thinks i c him as a cousin......dats too bad i know.
I m a practical person, i belive to be practical but at the same time i belive in fate too ( very strongly) i dont know which path to go. Sud i 4get all this & just concentrate on my career or sud i do both my career & also keep hoping dat he will come in my life sum day, coz its very hard, i wakeup wid a hope he will talk to me & i sleep wid the sad feeling dat he did not. Wat sud i do.???????? & let me tell u 1st its not lust.
Thnxx a lot 4 reading such longg, thnx for ur advice too.
(Serious advice requested coz u r the only source to my solution.)
2007-01-11 04:28:34 · 12 answers · asked by simple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it is the genuine thing that happens with everyone, bt few of them only knows how to deal with it, i am like your friend and i am a male so i can exactly tell u what u can do in this.
Before starting thinking about practicality or destiny it is very much important to have an open minded approach with eyeryone specially with one whom u like or want to be in relationship. Don't hide anything from him n try to get it out that whether that person likes u or not. If he likes you then go for it because there are few people who get such type of love so u can be among one of those lucky girls. Be the first one to propose if he likes u n if his friends make fun of yours then u can say that the guy must be not enough brave to propose a girl that will really changed the situation bt do so if he likes u bcoz then he will fail to say anything and if he dosn't like u then keep focussing on your carrer, think positive the ratio of boys is much higher than the girls u will get many n better.
Life is just like a river which is made up of small streams one have to accept otherwise it will not be a river so it is not fate nor practical but a simple continuitation of our life cycle make use of everything which u think is gud for u, try hard and one day success will kiss your foot
2007-01-11 05:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Raunaq S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r still 21 so b careful concentrate on ur future if he loves u he will make the first move if not just make frndshp with him talk to him nicely even then if does not express his feelings u tell him abt ur feelings see wht he says if not thn its a lost case. if he knows how u feel abt him n does not reciprocate then may b he sees u as his frnds sis n nothing more. u must have fallen in love because u see him regularly n ur family thinks he is nice u concentrate on ur career when time comes u may find other person or the one u love may come to u just dont get depressed b happy this life is short n nobody knows wht future holds. so try to go on in ur life. all the best
2007-01-15 02:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by ahsu254 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if you are so far doing the right thing with your life. You are only 21 and still have your whole future ahead of you. I can understand how you can be attracted to a guy who is not only good looking but appears to be a very nice young man. You mentioned that he is a friend of your brother. Being said that, I can understand his being hesitant in returning your feelings. At this young age, a man's loyalty is usually for his friends. He knows he is young and wants to experience going out with alot of girls and so even if he liked you he will not jeopordize his friendship wih your brother because he will be afraid if he hurts you this will be what will happen. I suggest you continue with your studies, that is what is important at this time of your life. A relationship can interfer with your education right now. I feel you trying to be his friend is a waste of your time for now, he knows you have this crush on him and therefore he will not take your approach to being his friend as just that. If he really liked you he would have shown it by now. Wait a few years, he will still be around if he is your brother's friend and maybe then you two will see how you both feel for one another.
2007-01-11 08:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
staring at him is not a solution, u have to b more practical as u mention that u r practical nd u strongly believe in fate too.i think in this case u r not applying ur practical skill nd considering only fate.i dont think there is any problem 4 gal 2 attract any guy but ur nature quite shy but u can pass him a smile nd give some indication that u like him,i hope u r understanding wat i am saying
2007-01-11 05:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be practical, but you are surely too confused.Firstly instead of staring at him just talk to him as a friend. Since you have his email id.mail him. your first mail wouldn't necessarily have to be a love letter.just try and break the ice a bit. Get to known him first.unless you start talking to him you cannot understand his true feelings.gave it time and make your own moves.
2007-01-11 19:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by cooldude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First find out from him did he really loves you or not indirectly ang get the info from ur /his friends share the things openly so that u both can able to understand eachother
2007-01-11 18:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by vijaya s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy in your life in your future is going to be the one that is your bestfriend. remember that. sounds like you do want him. First you need to get rid of rambleing. women who ramble are a pain in the butt. Speak only what you need to say and be direct. Don't be a ditz. decide what you want. then go for it or leave it alone
2007-01-18 22:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a guy really likes you, he'll make a move, even if he's "really shy"..i don't mean to burst you bubble b/c i seem that oyu wanted a different kind of answer, but seriously: focus on your career, and the "right one" will eventually come along...
2007-01-11 04:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by ejuju 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when there is a eye connection just smile at him and eventually he will start talking to u say hi when u met him that one is the key to many relationships
2007-01-15 23:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by deep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are out of school and working, then talk to him find out his interest in you.
If in school keep the friendship and status co. study hard encourage him to study hard and just enjoy the company.
2007-01-11 04:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋