I have been seeing this guy for about 2 years now. We have a daughter together. When I first found out I was going to have a baby he was really upset. He was really never there when I had her. Now she is going to be one and he has been coming over and sleeping here and telling me that he loves me. He also use to see this other girl and people tell me that he calls her all the time that he wants to be with her and he loves her. I just dont know what to do? We have a baby and I feel like we should be together. He always comes back to me.
2007-01-11 04:21:57 · 19 answers · asked by ashleynich86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats right he comes back to you because you let him time to dump this loser and do the right thing for you and your baby. why did he get upset when he gt you pregant he had a lot to do with it. you will get used again and again by this loser good luck...
2007-01-11 04:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you'll know, I'm a guy that used to do the same kind of thing. I've grown up and finally settled down now. You didn't mention how old you both are but he is probably not done messing around. Guys like to have a steady girl to always fall back on and still go out and have "fun" with other girls. I know, it sounds bad, but its just true. You pretty much have two choices, either you can keep waiting around on him, which could take a long time for him to come around. Or, you can tell him you're moving on. He may not respond right away, but if he really wants to be with just you, he'll realize it when you're not there at his convenience. Hope this helps! By the way, don't let the fact that you have a child with him, influence your choice to be happy. If your relationship isn't good, the child won't be happy either.
2007-01-11 13:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by arkansas_razorbacksfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay..time for a little tough love here. so here goes.
A baby will not keep a man and does not mean that you guys should be 2gether. So you need to get that out of your system now. If you guys have a child together then thats your only main focus right now. Your child. This guys is just playing games with you and he thinks that since you have his baby that he can always come back to you. Well babe its time to prove this cat wrong. You need to drop him and focus on you and your baby.
He is just playing you and dont let that "L" word fool you. Do you really think if he loved you he would be putting you though all this drama. If he really loved you he would only be focused on you and his baby. But as you know that is clearly not the case.
i know thats a little harsh and blunt but you are missing the biggest picture here and thats the well being of your baby. PERIOD.
2007-01-11 12:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He comes back to you because you allow him to come back. If you put a stop to him running in and out of your life then it won't happen. You need to tell him he has to make a choice, either his with you and only you or leave you alone. It's just that simple. He can still be a part of his daughter's life without being with you. If he decides he can't then you know he doesn't care about her and he's only there because you make it easy for him to be there and where ever else he wants to be at the same time.
Stop being his doormat. You deserve a lot more all you have to do is realize it and go for it. You don't have to take what he dishes out to you, you make your own life for you and your child and hopefully without him. Think about it this way, if he really wanted to be with you he wouldn't be coming and going, he'd be staying.
2007-01-11 12:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant listen to he said she said bullsh*t, if you want to know if he still talks to that girl, ask him, or her. You have to figure out whether or not it is worth your time for you to wait on him. All this switching back and forth isn't cool, if he wants to be with you then he would just be with you, it is as simple as that. It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. A guy will go only as far as you will let him, it is time to put your foot down and give him an ultimatum. The worst that could happen is that he chooses to be with the other girl, and if that happens then you clear your life of a deadbeat guy and make room for someone special!
2007-01-11 12:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by spoiledrottenchica1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop wondering what he wants and make a decision. Tell him he either marries you, or stops the sleep over crap. Actions speak louder than words- talk is cheap. If he loves everyone as much as he claims, he needs to step up to the plate, be a man, and make a commitment. You're making it all too easy for him to play games. Yes, you should be together, but stop playing yo-yo with him and take a stand. Your daughter doesn't need his "hide n seek" game in her life.
2007-01-11 12:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes obviously confused.
You have a daughter to think about. Dont confuse her. Especially with a little girl, dont raise her by teaching her that its ok that men come and go in your life. She will just grow up to emulate what youre doing. And do you want that for your daughter?
I suggest you leave him. Tell him that if wants a relationshipw ith you, it means marriage and living as a family. Otherwise, goodbye!
Dont let him hurt your daughter by doing this to her mommy.
2007-01-11 12:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he comes and goes when he wants to your making it real easy on him to cheat. You and the baby deserve better you have to lay down the law if not for yourself for you child. I know you love him but guys change when you have a baby unless they really love you! If they dont then it's time for you to move on with your life. And next time be smarter and think with your head instead of your,well you know....
2007-01-11 12:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give him a choice: either leave and leave for good or stay and commit yourself. He has already shown himself unworthy of yourself and the child so you should forget him (of couse let him be in child's life if he is willing and responsible because a father is extremely important) but if you are a good mom and he isn't there it is better for you and the child than letting him come and go as he pleases.
2007-01-11 12:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by xoheidixo10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt love u! if he loved u he would be there for u and ur daughter! he just wants to have 2 girls to be banging. i say u dump his @ss and file for child support. make him grow some b@lls and man up to his responsabilities. if he was man enough to have a baby, now he should be man enough to take care of her. but if hes sleepin round, whats the point of u trying to get back with him? all hes gonna do is hurt u and ur daughter. just break off all relationship and get child support.
2007-01-11 12:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋